Reading men’s magazines would lead you to believe that trying to woo a woman is some kind of complicated science that researchers have been trying to figure out for centuries. However, this is not exactly true.
If you really want to know how to make a girl like you, in addition to a little effort, sometimes it’s the weird and quirky things you do without thinking that have the biggest impact.
We spoke to some women about the surprising ways they were able to win the hearts of the men who became their boyfriends.
Maybe, just maybe, what they shared with us will teach us how to get a girlfriend…
10 women reveal what men did to fall in love with them.
1. Show that you care
What the woman said:
“Before my husband and I started dating, when we were just sleeping together, I somehow told him that he needed to go to the doctor to get a cervical biopsy because he was worried I had cancer. He went home that night. He stayed up until I had to go to the hospital, and then he drove me to his house and put me in my pajamas and… He sat me down on the couch with a bathrobe and a bowl of my favorite cereal. Lord of the Ring Extended version. Then he went to work and when he got home he brought me ice cream. He stayed up 36 hours to make sure I was okay and had everything I needed and completely spoiled me until I recovered before we went on a date. ” — Colleen, 29
“Once, I was out with a guy named Mike, and he was bothering my friend Lindsey. Mike interjected and said, ‘Sorry, she’s touching you and bothering you.’ I don’t want to, please. Please leave her alone.” I thought it was cute that he stood up for my friend, not for me. It was much bigger than that, and it was very drunk.” — MS, 26 years old.
“We were dating and I fell down the stairs and broke my leg. We weren’t officially in a relationship yet, but he took time off from work to come and take care of me. No matter what. Why would a guy do that? He convinced me and I realized he was a keeper.” — Lucy, 40 years old
What to do with this information: If you want to win over a woman, especially if you’re early in the game, you need to show her that you care deeply about her health and well-being. That’s what women notice in men.
2. Don’t be afraid to be quirky
What the woman said:
“Last Christmas, my boyfriend’s gift to me consisted of multiple parts, one of which was a harmonica. I was thinking (and actually saying out loud), ‘. .What?” And he said, “Okay? Monica and harmonica!” It was quite adorable. ” — Monica, 26 years old
“A man who lived out of town at the time and whom I had been seeing casually showed up unexpectedly and while I was at work someone delivered a funny ransom note. “I spent all my working hours wishing that he had done this, and he was right, and he won me over with it…and A few years later, I beat it the same way.” — Dana, 33
What to do with this information: Women like men who don’t exactly conform to the crowd. It’s great if it’s cool, but if it doesn’t have some eccentricity, it’s just “meh”. It is important to let your individuality shine.
3. Pretend to be someone else
What the woman said:
“I was accosted once while I was riding my bike, and it was really amazing. I had to pull out, but that wasn’t unusual, and I thought, “That’s right.” I went on a date with him because I was smart. ” — Courtney, 30 years old
What to do with this information: Being yourself is always encouraged, but if you need someone’s attention, it’s okay to stray.
4. Sacrifice your “masculinity.”
What the woman said:
“I had to practice some makeup techniques and he let me use his face as a canvas. At that point, I was like, ‘Oh, let’s play together. I thought, “I’m completely in love with this person.” — Amber, 25 years old
I think we can all agree that a man who can show his sensitive side is the kind of man that many women fall in love with. So why not really push the limits?
5. Fake people with the same interests
What the woman said:
“On our first date, Scott asked me what kind of music I liked. I told him I was into indie music, like the indie music scene, and he said he was too. He couldn’t name a favorite band; he loved them all. Months later, he admitted he had no idea what indie music was and thought it came from India. It was adorable. I still say I listen to indie music, but now I know what it is, but I don’t really know.” — Jennifer, 34 years old
What to do with this information: Sometimes you find yourself sitting across from someone who has different interests than you. There’s nothing wrong with pretending to be interested in something, even if you have no idea what it is.
6. Play hard to get it.
What the woman said:
“This is like every story you’ve ever heard. He wanted me, but I wasn’t interested, so he moved on. So, of course, after that, I Turns out his new girlfriend was a hoax, just a technique “to serve that very purpose.” We have been together for almost 5 years. ” — Elizabeth, 28 years old
“After a long flirty conversation, a guy I liked came out of a party without asking my phone number. It made him seem mysterious and attractive. Once I saw him, I decided to talk to him again. We ended up going on a date soon after.” ” — Stephanie, 26 years old
What to do with this information: As you can see, there’s really no exact formula for getting a girlfriend. All it takes is being yourself, but not being yourself, a few outright lies, compassion…and the occasional ransom note.
Sure, sometimes we really want something we can’t have, but it’s only when we don’t have or have lost something that we realize we need it.
Amanda Chatel is an essayist and intimacy health writer for Yourtango, Shape Magazine, Hello Giggles, Glamor, and Harper’s Bazaar.