When it comes to relationships, many of us are constantly searching for “that one” to live happily ever after. The truth is that we are looking in the wrong places. Because, believe it or not, the answer lies within each of us.
If you really want to have a healthy relationship, you need to follow certain relationship tips. And the following principles practiced by happy couples can help you assess your expectations.
Here are 18 relationship tips from some of the happiest couples on the planet.
1. People in happy relationships respect each other.
Without mutual respect, the relationship is doomed to failure. Mutual respect in a relationship means treating each other with admiration, acceptance, and high respect.
To have a happy relationship, you must know that each other has good intentions deep within you, and you must respect each other’s thoughts and decisions with an undercurrent of love and trust.
2. They adapt together.
It’s no secret that as our relationships develop, each of us grows. That’s part of living life together, right? You will definitely experience personal growth and growth as a couple, and that’s not a bad thing at all.
Don’t fight this. Rather, accept each other, give each other space, and keep an open mind and an open mind.
3. They are polite.
True happiness is founded on the altar of understanding and kind words. Even if you disagree with your partner’s opinion, just a gentle silence, honesty, and polite words will show that you care.
Happy couples don’t waste time getting mad at each other when they disagree. Instead, they find common ground and move forward.
4. Healthy relationships require partners to listen more.
Most of the time, speaking and acting from your own perspective instead of trying to see the other person’s side shows a lack of consideration and understanding. And a lack of empathy in relationships is a recipe for disaster.
This doesn’t mean sacrificing your ideals or peace of mind. A really good relationship tip is to agree to disagree. Because this is a quality that can be cultivated in a partnership, especially with compassion and empathy.
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5. They stopped playing the blame game.
When you find yourself in an unpleasant situation, it’s best to get out of the situation as gracefully as possible. It is useless to focus on this issue and throw things out of proportion. Happy couples try not to blame each other.
You can teach people how to correct their shortcomings 100 times better by setting a good example than by teaching them with harsh or self-righteous words.
6. They practice self-awareness.
It’s a great habit to reflect on what you’re contributing to your relationships from time to time. Do you have an equal partnership, or is there room for improvement? These are the kinds of questions happy couples ask themselves on a daily basis.
Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are being critical, overly critical, unfair, defensive, or unkind. Always go in the right direction.
7. Each partner in a healthy relationship admits their mistakes.
As most relationship tips tell you, this is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you know you’re wrong. No one likes to admit they weren’t right, but would you rather be right or do you want to continue the relationship?
This simple gesture will bring you peace of mind and increase love and acceptance in your relationship.
8. They celebrate each other.
When life gets busy, it’s easy to forget to celebrate each other. But doing so creates a closer bond and helps you remember why you came together in the first place.
Let’s lift each other up and celebrate the small and big victories together. Sharing is caring. Please be happy with each other.
9. They forgive a lot.
Mark Twain said it best: “Forgiveness is the scent of violets on the heel that crushed you.” Forgiveness makes you a greater person by the very act of it.
Sometimes we forgive our partners even when we know they are wrong. You forgive someone for yourself, not for their sake. The resulting inner peace makes everything worthwhile.
10. Healthy partners love to be loved.
If you want to be loved, start loving yourself first. That should be your first priority before allowing yourself to give your heart to someone else.
What you want others to become is what you want yourself to be first. Then you will notice that others will respond to you in the same way. When each person wants to see the other happy, they will naturally love each other.
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11. They are careful about how they react.
How you react to a situation determines your outcome. Reacting emotionally can also cause rifts in happy relationships and negatively impact your mental health. But you don’t have to let your emotions control you.
If you don’t like the results, try something different. Rather than blaming the event or your partner, take an honest look at yourself. The answer may surprise you.
12. They communicate early and often.
Sometimes we let our anger and resentment fester. If you have any concerns, it is best to contact us as soon as possible. Use the word “I” instead of “you” when communicating.
That way, you are simply stating your feelings rather than blaming the other person. “I’m disappointed in…” “I’m outraged by…” “I hate it…” or “I wish…”
13. People in healthy relationships appreciate each other.
Make a list of the things you are grateful for about your partner and your relationship. Write down things that really make you happy and read them often.
Sometimes it’s the little things you need to be reminded of that can help you regain focus and why you fell in love in the first place. Say it out loud and let them know how much they are appreciated.
14. They acknowledge and let go of each other’s past.
Each of us has a skeleton in our closet of instances and events that we are not very proud of or that have brought us sadness or shame. Failed relationships and people you don’t want to remember. However, if you leave those memories alone, there is no doubt that your relationship will deteriorate.
Let go of everything. It doesn’t help your relationship. That was then, and this is now.
15. They do their best to exude peace.
Close relationships and peace are the greatest of all happiness (next to divine happiness). If you don’t have peace within yourself, you can’t have peace in your relationships.
Meditation, prayer, spiritual practices – each helps bring peace into our lives. Let’s pray and enjoy food together. The more time you spend together, the deeper your love for each other will grow.
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16. They share finances.
Be willing to share money issues, be honest and responsible. Even if one person makes more money than the other, each person has an equal say in joint family spending.
You both decide to agree to separate or joint accounts from the beginning so that your mutual decisions do not affect the relationships and intimacy in your lives. Don’t let money destroy your foundation.
17. Healthy couples are best friends first.
Life can bring many challenges. One of the best things about marriage and relationships is being able to share each other’s sorrows and joys.
Keep your friendship strong by going on dates, talking, and laughing together. Remember often the friendships you formed in the beginning and never lose sight of them.
If you come from a place of true friendship, nothing can upset you. Because you will always know that you have each other’s support and that you have the strength to overcome any adversity that life may bring.
18. They have a wide and diverse circle of friends.
Connecting with mutual friends and sharing time with others will help you appreciate your partner even more. It can even be a source of great joy and fulfillment in your relationship.
Sharing information between friends creates deeper bonds. And that’s what the world’s happiest couples do.
Lani St. Pucci She is a certified transformational life coach, success trainer, image consultant, author, TEDx speaker, and founder of St. Pucchi, an internationally acclaimed bridal fashion house. She has been featured in Harper’s Bazaar, Town & Country, Medium, Huffington Post, and many other publications.
This article was originally published at: huffington post. Reprinted with permission from the author.