Men may be confused. What do they want from his wife? Are there any personality traits or other qualities or characteristics that men find attractive in other women?
You want answers, and the good news is that I’m here to provide a male perspective. If you want to get a boyfriend who will be excited about marriage, there are some characteristics that will make you even more attractive.
Here are three personality traits that men with high values look for in their wives.
1. Acceptability
When a man is really interested in you and starting to take you seriously, he wants to give you something. In fact, good men fall in love when they give. For example, he wants to take you out to dinner, so don’t offer to split the check. Instead, let him pay.
Being receptive in this context means simply thanking him and telling him how great the food was and how great his restaurant selection is. A mature man doesn’t have to pay you half of the bill. Rather, he is looking for a woman he can make happy and who will appreciate what he has to offer.
It may seem old-fashioned to make men pay, but men marry women who have solid self-esteem, not self-confidence. (Confidence is about what you do, self-esteem is about who you are.)
Being receptive means you are comfortable and used to a man caring about your feelings, and that you like it and appreciate that he cares about you. tell him. Although it may feel counterintuitive, this is one of the key ways men gauge your self-esteem and determine whether you’re the kind of woman they want in a potential wife.
He wants to make you happy and wants to know by your feedback if he can do it well. When you accept his behavior and are honest about how it makes you feel, that’s an important quality.
Being receptive doesn’t mean you’re into him. It means being willing to allow him to try to charm you through ancient courtship customs that involve one person giving to the other.
2. Availability
After a guy asks you out, even if you’re away for two weeks, he might follow up by calling you in hopes of meeting up. But if you don’t allow him to see you within a reasonable period of time, say within a week, he will come to one of his two conclusions: It’s whether you’re too busy with friends, work, or just working. I’m not interested in him.
For men, momentum is everything. When they see you for the first time, they get very excited and can’t wait to see you again. They may already be making plans to go out again after your first date. So when you can meet him, give him the green light and let him know you’re excited too.
Will he get ahead of himself and ask for too much, like wanting to see you every night? perhaps. But it doesn’t matter. After all, you want a man who is enthusiastic. And he will find that enthusiasm very attractive.
Your job is to let him know when you’re available, within reason, at a pace that suits your comfort level, and without giving him the impression that it will never happen. Simply put, let him know if you’re interested. If not, tell him so you can move on.
3. Be respectful
If you look around you, you’ll notice that men often don’t marry the most attractive women they’ve ever met. What adult men look for in a woman they marry is something that cannot be seen with the naked eye.
If a man is smart, he will marry a woman who respects him. This simply means that you respect his way of life, believe in his career success, appreciate the way he interacts with his friends and family, and that you agree with his life goals and aspirations. means.
The best thing you can do to show a man that you respect him is to ask him what he thinks about things. When he has a problem, let him know that you support him and that he will figure it out. Ask him for advice and opinions on topics he knows a lot about.
A man who is ready for love is looking for a life partner. This will make it clear to him that you are part of his team. When you’re single, it’s great to get what you want and have your way, but when you’re part of a team, you see things from a different perspective.
It’s easy to respect a man who wants to build something with you. Being respected by a woman is the same thing for a man, and that’s what makes him want to build with her.
If you want a man who is willing to talk and get excited about marriage, realize that the personality traits men look for in a wife are receptivity, availability, and respect.
Being receptive means you are willing to follow his lead. You want to know how he handles reality. Where does he want to take you for dinner? What does he like to do for fun? Sit and watch to find out if he will make your life better and if you want him to be your boyfriend, much less his potential husband.
For men, momentum is everything. He’s going to be strong and you’re going to want to do a lot right away to see if you can handle him. You can use it as much as possible and within reason. Just know that yes, you need to delay him, and you should. Don’t kill his enthusiasm.
You want a man you can respect. Life is too long to be married to a man who doesn’t inspire you. At the end of the day, it really comes down to personality.
It looks faded. But when a man marries, he wants a woman who respects him and joins his team. Because at the end of the day, lasting love is a team player’s game.
James Allen Hanrahan is a dating and relationship coach for women based in Los Angeles. He is also the author of A Life of Love and Dating Advice for Alpha Women.