Even those of us in monogamous, committed relationships can be physically attracted to someone else. But what happens when someone in a relationship actually starts to develop feelings for someone else? So what? Will the relationship inevitably break down?
Well, relationships are rarely completely perfect. And if the right storm of circumstances blows in, it’s almost predictable that someone within the relationship will start to become obsessed with someone else. Unrequited love may end quickly or it may last for a long time. Yes, it can destroy your relationship, but it doesn’t have to.
Here are three reasons why you fall in love with someone outside of your relationship.
1. One (or both) is stressed about something in the relationship.
Maybe financial pressures lead to personal arguments, or work stress takes a toll on your sex life. The daily stress of a relationship may cause one of you to develop a temporary crush on someone else.
When both partners in a relationship are feeling tense or under pressure, it can be: Difficulty expressing positive emotions (i.e. love for each other). This does not mean that love does not exist, but it does mean that it is not expressed enough. And when relationships are strained, affection diminishes, so people are more likely to seek love from someone else. !
2. You are not spending enough time together as a couple.
Sometimes life is like that.meanwhile relationship may be okay And on the surface, work or school commitments can mean that partners spend more time apart than together. And guess what? This means that we spend more time with our colleagues and classmates than with each other. It’s the perfect beer to nurture innocent love.
3. You are not satisfied with your current relationship.
Just imagine… you’re dating this amazing man. He is a loving partner, enjoys spending time with you, and you both agree on many important points. But you quite enjoy horseback riding (enter your activity of choice here)…and he’s not too excited about it.
In your mind, this makes the relationship less “satisfying”, even if it’s just a little bit.then you will really meet someone really like horse riding. what happens next?
You start to wonder, “Why can’t my boyfriend be like that?” And you bond with that new guy through your favorite activities. Unrequited love tends to magnify the unsatisfactory parts of a relationship, and unsurprisingly, the less happy a relationship is, the more likely one partner is to develop unrequited love for someone else.
And when this actually happens, it can destroy a good relationship or make it even stronger. How it plays out depends on how the couple navigates these “crushes.”
Kelly P. Crossing is an experienced counselor and relationship expert who specializes in helping women create the lives and relationships they want by understanding their driving needs and how to meet them. .