Our committed love relationships are the greatest spiritual tool we have.
As a relationship coach who is also married, I believe that your most important relationships can be your greatest tools to become your best self.
Doesn’t it make sense that in a committed relationship where trust and loyalty are central, endless opportunities for true growth naturally emerge?
The true measure of our spiritual life is most evident in how we love and commit to our partners in healthy relationships.
We all want to think of ourselves as loving human beings who care about the environment and the future of our planet. We pray, meditate, and volunteer at a local soup kitchen regularly, so we convince ourselves that we’re doing well emotionally and spiritually.
But the true measure of our emotional and mental health is how we treat and love the people in our most important relationships.
Let’s be honest: It’s much easier to love the world ideologically than it is to love a real-life husband snoring on the couch or a wife nagging about the dishes.
But it’s in these moments that we see so clearly how loving, tolerant, kind, and accepting we truly are.
Our partners act as mirrors that reflect back to us the best and worst parts of ourselves.
We see ourselves most honestly when faced with others who have our investments, efforts, and expectations and needs to meet them.
We recognize who we are in the choices we make throughout the day: whether to follow our conscience, whether to put the needs of others before our own, whether or not to give when we don’t feel like it. To do.
Only in a committed and healthy relationship will we discover how much we truly love and respect the other person.
By noticing, appreciating, and embracing these opportunities, we can recognize how our partnerships function in very real and substantial ways as part of our spiritual practice and growth. It will look like this.
How we view relationships determines what we experience and learn.
What if we considered our most important relationships to be our actual path to wholeness? What if we viewed our healthy relationships and marriages as transformative practices?
First of all, we may treat our partners very differently. Second, if we believe that healthy relationships are central to our spiritual growth, we will naturally begin to pay more attention to our actions and attitudes.
Paying attention is the essence of having a spiritual perspective. Considering relationships are central to our growth, challenges turn into opportunities and partnerships are where our most significant growth happens.
Our goal is to become more loving and accepting of those we love most, and there are three simple ways to show our dedication.
Here are three small habits that will help you become more committed than most couples.
1. Choose actions that move us in the direction of connection and love
2. Treat our relationships as laboratories for daily spiritual practice.
3. View our relationships as opportunities to grow closer to the spiritual person we aspire to be.
Connection and intimacy require a great deal of honesty and courage.
The things we desire most, such as connection and intimacy, require a great deal of honesty and courage.
Courage is essential for spiritual growth. Vulnerability and courage are essential ingredients to truly live life to the fullest and build partnerships around core values.
When we approach our relationships in this way, we become true spiritual partners, working on ourselves while encouraging and supporting each other’s growth.
Think of it this way, our spiritual and emotional growth cannot exist apart from our significant relationships.
Rather, it becomes an integral part of it. In loving, committed relationships, we practice intentionality, self-control, and mutual appreciation every day.
As spiritual people, we strive to provide support, validation, and love to our partners.
In this very practical and substantive way, our partnership naturally becomes an integral part of our true spiritual practice.
Debbie Gallery I am a speaker and relationship coach with over 25 years of experience coaching and leading relationship and marriage seminars.she is the author of small steps towards greater love.