When you want to know if a man is in love with you, it doesn’t matter what he says. What’s more important is what he does.
For men, love is a verb. So when he falls in love with you, he takes action.
Here are three unmistakable signs that a man is in love with you:
1. He always wants to see you
For men, momentum is everything. From the moment he meets you and gets your number, does he call you right away? Is he making a real effort to meet you? If so, it means that he is falling in love with you.
But if he can wait a few weeks before meeting you, or once he meets you and waits another month, he has no momentum. Unfortunately, this means he is wasting your time.
So, in order to avoid falling in love with a man who doesn’t like you, you first need to find out whether he has any energy or not.
2. He introduces you to people and escalates the relationship
Many people start early. They always want to see you, but suddenly they disappear.
A man who is in love with you wants to build something with you.
This means that he wants to do different things with you, such as introducing you to his friends and family. He makes you feel involved in his life.
Escalation means he doesn’t just date or sleep with you. He builds a life with you and adds complexity to what you do together.
3. He feels responsible for you and wants to be exclusive.
When a man falls in love with you, he suddenly wants to give up his freedom (something many men value) and become responsible for you.
This simply means that he is considering your feelings, and there is no sudden disappearing act. He will make an agreement with you and keep it without hesitation.
When a man falls in love with you, having a relationship is his idea. He doesn’t want to lose you, so he asks you to be exclusive. He has momentum and is goal-oriented. His goal is to be with you.
He invites you into his life and you feel the relationship is escalating. You feel that he cares about your feelings and that he welcomes the responsibility of making long-term plans with you. These are the signs that show if a man is in love with you.
James Allen Hanrahan is a dating and relationship coach for women based in Los Angeles. He is also the author of A Life of Love and Dating Advice for Alpha Women.