Never underestimate your narcissistic partner’s breakup maneuvers.
Narcissists’ end strategies vary. If he still sees value in the relationship, he may try to win you back. Then he can control and abuse you again.
He may suddenly become nicer and “promise to change,” stop drinking, and go to therapy or an abuser program. He may suddenly be willing to do something that you were dissatisfied with. He may tell you, “You’ll be lost without him,” or, “No one will want to be with you.”
But if he believes you’re breaking up with him for good, if he thinks you’re dating someone else, or if he thinks he’s done with you. If so, you may find yourself in the “battle of life”.
If you think your relationship with a narcissistic man is about to end, be prepared for these narcissistic behaviors:
Here are three upsetting things to expect when you break up with a narcissist.
1. He finds another “bedmate”
A narcissistic man may be planning another relationship before dumping you, and when that happens, his behavior can change dramatically overnight. He can be very unpredictable, withdrawn, hostile, and emotionless, and can be quickly abandoned without warning.
If he decides he wants to be with a new love interest, he may do something outrageous to get rid of you. And even if he dumps you, there will be no apology or expression of regret, because the narcissist feels no guilt, shame, or remorse for his reprehensible act.
2. He will do anything to get you away
When a narcissistic man thinks he can’t control you anymore or is done with you, he can become destructive and dangerous.
He will try to take advantage of minor issues and subject you to extreme verbal and physical abuse. And his growing anger seems to come out of nowhere for no apparent reason. He will say and do new evil deeds against you.
In order to punish, frighten, and anger you, he engages you in elaborate arguments to justify abusing and abandoning you. Meanwhile, the narcissist derives satisfaction from the drama and pain they create.
What I didn’t know was that my fiance (who lives 160 miles away) was dating another woman. He came to town and took me out to dinner. I thought it was just like any other date night. Instead, he started the worst fight of our relationship at a restaurant, then physically assaulted me when we returned home.
It dealt a fatal blow to our relationship. The next week I found out that his new slut was already living with him.
3. His verbal attacks escalate to physical abuse.
The endgame for a narcissistic man can be dangerous and terrifying. He may throw things or hit things near you to intimidate you into submission, or he may destroy your valuable possessions to punish you. yeah.
He may threaten to harm your children, pets, or family members. He may make false accusations against you, call child services, or threaten to take your children away from you. He may use his size to intimidate you. For example, he may stand in the doorway during an argument and block your exit.
He might say something like “I’ll break your neck,” but then dismiss the threat by saying he didn’t mean it. He may threaten you with physical harm, stalk you, or show up at your work or home unannounced and ask for a fight.
When a woman I know broke up with her jealous and abusive boyfriend, he stole her favorite clothes, jewelry, and perfume so she couldn’t “look good to other men.” . He terrorized her with endless threatening phone calls and text messages.
He showed up drunk at her apartment late at night, knocked on her patio door and windows, demanded to be let in, and when she called the police, he keyed the side of her car.
He left notes on the windshield of her car at home and at work that ranged from “I love you. Please give me another chance” to “If I ever see you with another man, I’ll kill you.” In his mind, if he couldn’t have her, no one else would.
Never open the door to an angry person.
If you think you may be experiencing depression or anxiety as a result of continued emotional abuse by a narcissist, you are not alone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone and is not a reflection of who you are or what you did wrong.
If you feel you are in danger, support is available 24/7 through the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If you do not feel safe speaking, please text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474.
nancy nichols She is a best-selling author on self-help, dating, and relationships, an empowerment speaker, a notorious blogger, and a TV and radio talk show personality. She is an advocate for women who use self-help books to teach self-esteem building, the power of positive thinking, understanding relationships, and personal healing.