First dates come with their own unique stresses. Thinking about kissing on a first date can be even more stressful than the anticipation of the actual date.
Experts have mixed opinions about kissing strangers. Some people say it’s inappropriate to kiss on the first date, especially if it’s a blind date. Others argue that kissing on the first date is beneficial because it gives you an immediate idea of the other person’s bedroom style.
However, in reality, there are pros and cons to kissing on the first date. Let’s list a few. Then decide what works best for you.
Here are four things you can learn about a man by kissing him on the first date.
1. Know his level of respect for you
A kiss on the first day will help you determine how much a man wants and respects you. If he’s attracted to you, he’s more likely to give you a sensual kiss if he feels the kiss is reciprocated.
If he respects you, he’ll accept that it’s your first date and won’t opt for more than a kiss. But if he offers to take you to the nearest hotel, he loses.
2. I understand how he feels.
Kissing on a first date can be very exciting as it makes both of you anxious about the next date. If a man wants to kiss you, this is a good sign that he is into you. Take advantage of that and keep them panting for you while you wait for your next date.
3. Understand your own limitations
Keep in mind that any kind of physical interaction can lead to something more than just a kiss. If you want a long-term relationship, kissing on the first date may not be appropriate.
A light peck on the cheek is traditional. However, if you’ve had a few drinks and can’t seem to keep your hands off each other, you may have made a mistake.
4. But you don’t even know who else he’s kissing
Other than the fact that he might be a terrible kisser, you probably don’t know enough about him to kiss him yet. If he seems like a flirty guy, he better make sure you’re the only one he’s kissing as far as he knows.
If you must kiss him, let him kiss your cheek or hand. A true gentleman would not care about that and would appreciate your discretion. Remember that he is watching you too.
So you already know that whether or not you kiss a guy on the first date is completely up to you. If you feel like it’s going to work out, know your limits and take a chance.
But if you choose to wait, that’s okay. Remember that either decision is the right decision, as long as you are comfortable with it.
Devon Brown He is a dating and relationship coach and has been featured in The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, World Internet Summit, Mastermind, and more.