Dating can be difficult. That’s why when we finally find our significant other and can imagine spending the rest of our lives together, it’s easy to gloss over what isn’t true about the relationship.
True love requires both people in the relationship to be committed to making it work.
But when someone gets hot or cold, it can be difficult to know exactly when to break up.
Breaking up with someone is never easy, but today I’m going to share with you 5 reasons why you should break up with your boyfriend and move on with your life if he doesn’t “get you”.
Here are 5 reasons why you should give up on a man who doesn’t “get you”.
1. You have to do something that he is not strong enough to do.
In weak moments when he is lonely and needy and wants to connect with you, he will come back to you. You will have a great time together, but in his strong moments he will once again question whether this is the right relationship and whether you are the right person.
So you’re stuck in a loop with this guy and this pain keeps coming back to you over and over again.
2. There is definitely someone waiting for you.
They won’t consider you to be 70 percent of what they want. They will be absolutely sure of you. When you’re with someone who doesn’t know you well, you’re robbing them of themselves. And by the way, you’re also depriving that person of yourself.
3. Life is short when you have the right person.
When you find someone who is sure of you and can trust you, you will already feel like there is not enough time in the world to love each other. So why would you spend some of your precious, limited time with someone you don’t even know?
4. Even when he’s with you, you’re not doing your best.
How do you know that? Because when a man isn’t serious and hasn’t really decided that this person is this person, he always holds back. He doesn’t spend as much of his emotional energy or time and doesn’t go out of his way to make the gestures that he would…
So you’re getting a piece of him, even if it feels good. That’s an insult to your time. It’s an insult to how much you value that person. I go to the show every night and the cast never even shows up.
5. Relationships are hard enough, even with the right person.
Even if we both find each other and are sure of each other, there will still be problems and we will still strive every day to be better, to grow, to give more. But in relationships, instead of trying to be enough, you should give more in order to do your best.
Just being us is enough and everything else is an effort to do our best for our partners. Don’t try to be good enough. Find the right person for you and try to do your best for them.
You see, men will say they’re unsure for a variety of reasons, and that may be true, it may be completely logically correct.
Perhaps he holds three jobs. Maybe this is a tough time in his life.Maybe there’s something going on inside him that he can’t handle right now.
But right now, I don’t care about his reasons, I care about your reality. Where you’re giving your time, energy, and emotions to someone you don’t really know.
Life is too short to spend time with people who don’t know you well.
Set the bar higher than that.
Matthew Hussey is a dating guru and confidence coach for women. He has helped millions of women achieve the love life of their dreams through his New York Times bestselling books, his sold-out live seminars, and his powerful training videos.
This article was originally published at: goodman project. Reprinted with permission from the author.