There’s this weird idea that if you fail on Valentine’s Day, you’ll never be considered a good boyfriend, lover, or husband. Struggle hard for February’s intimacy, or be shunned and forever forced into complacency in lonely bitterness. So, no pressure. Crazy idea: Let’s be romantic all year long and forget about this overhyped day. The biggest things couples fight about are money, intimacy, work, children, and housework.
Here are five important relationship tips.
1. Spend money on important things
Financial responsibility is very important because it helps reduce stress. Being broke is stressful, which reduces your sexual desire. Work together as a team to budget effectively. Instead of buying more and more useless things, learn how to find happiness through relationships. Who cares if your stupid iPhone can’t talk when you both have someone you can take off your clothes and actually talk to?
2. Remember that experiences are more fulfilling than things.
Think about how you wish you could play games with your family, rub your significant other’s feet, or take an extra vacation to spend time here and there instead of spending more time fiddling with spreadsheets on your cube farm. .
3. Let’s be on the same page when it comes to raising children.
And I’m not just talking about the idea part. We need to be on the same page in how they are raised. Never try to win the child over to the other parent. The best parenting style is us versus the kids. Give your children the opportunity to divide and conquer, and they will conquer you both. Bonus tip: Women find fathers who play with their children attractive.
4. Don’t compare housework.
You worked all day, and they probably worked too. Think of it as the path of least resistance. Scrubbing something, dragging the vacuum cleaner, tossing in a load of laundry, or unloading the dishwasher can lead to constant arguments and stress about what kind of predicament you’re living in. It’s easier than
Comparing who did what is a wasted effort that damages relationships. Additionally, it helps to consider the calories burned by additional training without having to live in a trash can with a TV and a roof.
5. Show your partner you love them in ways other than intimacy.
More importantly, think about your partner in an intimate way on a regular basis, rather than just being turned on for five minutes at a time. Show affection, write love notes or send love messages, rub her neck without expectations, don’t miss an opportunity for a quick touch or grope, shower together, hug her often, and give her a hug. Don’t pout if you don’t feel well. Don’t make it seem like you just want intimacy. Let her know that what you want is her girlfriend. That your desire is born out of her love to be with her.
Boycott Valentine’s Day by spreading the word with the cumulative effect of 365 days of small acts of love and romance.
And what are you going to do for your wife this Valentine’s Day? In fact, it can be quite romantic, like writing her a love letter, giving her flowers, dropping her kids off somewhere, or preparing her a nice dinner for just the two of you. There are several.
This is because it marks 21 years since I handed her a sparkly little rock and asked her to hold on until I took a wrong turn. The fact that it happens to be February 14th is purely coincidental.
James S. Fell He is an internationally syndicated fitness columnist. He has written columns for the Los Angeles Times and Chicago Tribune for several years.
This article was originally published at: James Fell website. Reprinted with permission from the author.