In today’s generation, many people advocate eliminating the long-standing sexual role that partners play in relationships. Relationships are a two-way street and require both partners to support each other and care for each other, regardless of traditional roles.
However, a true gentleman has certain responsibilities that he must always take the lead on. This is common courtesy and will make the woman feel valued and respected.
One man shared five simple but impactful ways good men take care of the women they love.
On TikTok, a man named melvin She explained what women should “never do” when it comes to marriage and love. Addressing these behaviors will bring about real change in your relationships.
1. Fill up the gas for her
It’s unpleasant enough for a woman to stop by a gas station and fill up her own tank, but having her partner watch her do it from the passenger seat is the worst thing ever. It’s a small act, but a woman will be forever grateful for a partner who always pumps gas for her whenever they’re together.
This will help her feel less uncomfortable and valued.
2. Take out the trash for her
“If you spend the night at your daughter’s house and wake up in the morning and find the trash full, take the initiative to take out the trash,” Melvin says.
Women have been given the responsibility of household chores for generations, so making the effort to always take out the trash will give her peace of mind. A woman loves nothing more than to be shown love through her acts of service.
“Your wife shouldn’t actively throw the trash can out into the street. It’s your job to do it the night before,” Melvin added.
3. Check the maintenance of her car
Regardless of a woman’s level of knowledge about car maintenance, some women are car savvy, so it doesn’t hurt to take extra care to make sure your car is safe and problem-free.
For women who don’t drive their cars very often, Melvin suggested immediately fixing any problems she brought to your attention. For women who use their cars every day, Melvin advised men to check their cars at least once a week to make sure everything is running smoothly.
4. Always open the door for her.
It’s a very simple action, but it can have a huge impact on how a woman feels.
Melvin explained how it is essential for a husband or boyfriend to open the car door and help the woman get in and out of the car. By doing so, they not only feel safe and secure, but also loved and valued.
This same rule applies to any door a woman needs to enter. As her partner, be sure to open the door for her and treat her with the respect she deserves.
5. Pay attention to external maintenance
Melvin advised the men to always do their own outdoor maintenance, such as mowing the grass, blowing and raking fallen leaves, and shoveling snow.
Unless a woman chooses to work outdoors or do gardening in her spare time, she should not be responsible for performing these forms of physical labor herself, much less at all.
If you’re both too busy, consider hiring a landscaper or using your free time to get it done. However, don’t expect women to handle it themselves.
A true gentleman knows when to take the lead.
Essentially, every woman needs a gentleman who will consider her needs and take care of her in a way that no one else can. The list includes more than just helping with car trouble and taking out the trash. Small acts of love make a difference.
“If you want the woman you’re dating, your girlfriend, or your wife to do masculine things, don’t expect her to be feminine,” Melvin advised.
Women feel safe and appreciated when they can rely on their partners to be there for them and step up through acts of service. He reassures her that her chivalry is not dead.
Every relationship is different, so it’s important to discuss what responsibilities you both want, but a gentleman should always know how to provide for his woman without being asked.
Francesca Duarte is a writer on YourTango’s news and entertainment team based in Orlando, Florida. She covers lifestyle, human interest, and spirituality topics.