Heartbreak isn’t fun unless you enjoy the feeling of having your heart ripped out, trampled on, and flattened down to a pancake. It hurts us emotionally, psychologically, and maybe even physically. But as terrible as it may be, breakups sometimes have their benefits. It can pave the way to personal improvement and a better understanding of relationship dynamics.
We’re not saying you should break up with your partner on a daily basis any more than you should take an aspirin every day or exercise regularly. There’s no reason to get in the way of a solid, healthy relationship. But if the parting happened suddenly or as a result of seeing something coming a mile away, then it is possible to turn the negative into a positive.
Instead of drinking a bottle of wine or memorizing every lyric to “All By Myself,” consider:
5 ways to gain from a breakup.
1. Breakups can bring about positive changes.
according to Survey conducted in 2003 Research at the University of Minnesota shows that breakups can have both mental and physical health benefits. To prove this, researchers focused on 92 students who had recently experienced a breakup. Among these students, patterns of calmness, closer friendships, healthier eating habits, increased physical fitness, and overall more fulfilling lives were observed.
This may be because breaking up gives you a chance to get out of a relationship rut. We can come back rejuvenated, remade, and ultimately better than ever. It may also be because a breakup gives you inspiration to better yourself. For example, if you want to make your ex-lover more attractive, the best thing to do is to look good. Damn.
2. Breaking up allows you to forget the absolute.
People in relationships often think of things in absolute terms. They think, “We’ll never break up” or “It’s not going to work out like this.” In any case, it never is or never will be. However, thinking in absolute terms is not healthy. Because, quite simply, nothing in life is absolute (other than death, taxes, and hitting all the red lights when you’re late for work). Farewells remind us of this, teach us to understand (or at least accept) the concept of not knowing, and to understand that not knowing is actually something we can deal with. Masu.
3. Breaking up gives you a second chance.
Statistics vary widely depending on who you ask, but some research suggests the following: 75% of people reunite With my ex-boyfriend at some point. Think of it this way, a breakup could give you a chance to fall in love again. Or at least give 3 out of 4 people a second chance.
And you never know if you’ll be successful in the second round. As an added bonus, having lived through a breakup will make you better equipped to deal with some of the problems that will inevitably arise, or to avoid them altogether.
4. Breakups provide insight.
Insight is something we all strive for. We’re constantly analyzing other people’s actions, obsessively wondering what people are thinking, and turning to the old Magic 8 Ball to get clarity on where our relationships are headed. There is even. A breakup can provide the insight we crave because it’s when all the cards, all the grievances, all the frustrations are laid out on the table. This allows us to move forward with more insight and achieve greater success than ever before.
5. Farewell gives you gratitude.
A breakup is never the end of a relationship. As described above, Reconciliation is always possible. Once this reconciliation is achieved, you will feel even more grateful for your partner. Then you will be able to love them more easily and completely.
Michael Griswold is a relationship and life coach who uses his expertise to help men and women heal broken hearts and find love again.