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According to experts on non-monogamy issues, your relationship may be ready for a polyamory adventure, but you may not know it.
Recent research shows that the majority of Gen Z participants surveyed choose open relationships, and the concept of “more is better” continues to grow among American couples. It’s becoming more and more common.
Recently, many happy practitioners shared their experiences on huffpostthe traditional duo feel the spark has gone out from their once passionate romantic life, suggesting that their next step may be to consider breaking up together.
Here are six signs that polyamory advocates suggest your relationship is ready for serious change.
1 to 1 is the loneliest number
Sarah Stroh, a non-monogamous author, told reporters that suppressing her desire for exploration “always felt like a sacrifice” when she was in traditional one-on-one relationships. he said.
“To this day, how much of a problem has it been to limit my connections with others, and to talk about the fact that I have these desires without the accusation that I don’t love them?” I still don’t know how much of a problem it was that we couldn’t even do that. We’re good enough as partners,” Stroh said.
“I think the latter was the most difficult.”
your mind is curious
Polyamory educator Lian Yau said people with a sense of adventure and a desire for new things might want to take a second look at polyamory.
“They like to be energized by learning new things, both about themselves and about others,” Yau says.
“So people who are energized by novelty, learning, and self-discovery are well-suited to non-monogamy.”
Stroh also asserted that “non-monogamy allows for more flexibility in this area.”
“In past relationships, I’ve suggested trying threesomes or going to sex parties because I wanted to explore something new,” she added. “I didn’t have that back then, but I’ve always been an adventurous person, and non-monogamy really satisfies that need for adventure.”
Others give you energy
Polyamory can also stimulate both romantic and friendship connections, Yau says.
“People who have a lot of energy to cultivate some form of deep connection or intimacy with multiple people are probably more likely to have non-monogamous relationships,” she says. “Because it takes a lot of time and effort to invest in a lot of people that way.”
However, Yau also notes that for people who belong to close-knit social circles invested in getting to know only a few people deeply, suddenly branching out into non-monogamy “may not be so appropriate.” ” he advises.
Strong ties with partners
Straw says that taking a big step, such as becoming non-monogamous, requires a relationship that’s built on solid foundations.
“In a safe relationship, if both parties are interested in connecting intimately with others other than each other and want to give their partner the freedom to do the same, they should do so,” she said. .
Yau also emphasized the importance of emotional safety, honesty, and boundaries.
“Once you open up your relationship, you can no longer rely on the fact that the relationship is just to prove you love each other,” she says.
“How do we redefine how we love each other when we strip away the one thing that so many people base their love on: the fact that they had to give up everything else? ” What is your relationship without exclusivity? What is love and devotion without exclusivity between you? ”
The bedroom is far away
Even if you love each other deeply, there can be a sexual disconnect, confusion, and lack of romantic fulfillment.
“This is especially true for people who like kinks and group sex,” Zachary Zane, a writer and sex expert for the dating app Archer, told the outlet, adding that differences in couples’ sexual desires are also common. He added that it was the cause.
“In that case, an open relationship may be ideal,” Zane added. “That way, those with a high sex drive can get their needs met elsewhere, and those with a low sex drive won’t feel pressured to have sex more often than they would like.”
you don’t think of it as a problem solution
Going into polyamory as a last-ditch effort to repair a relationship is almost always a bad idea, experts agree.
“I would caution against the idea that entering non-monogamy will solve your problems,” Stroh says. “While it may happen in rare cases, it is most likely to cause further conflict before anything is resolved.”
Yau also explained that it’s not something a partner should be bullied into.
“The most important thing is that you want it to be, and you’re not just doing it because your partner wants it. So if your personal motivation for non-monogamy is very I think it needs to be important,” she added.
“And it’s not just because they don’t want to lose their partner or end the relationship.”
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