So you’re dating a guy and the first few weeks are important. You really like this guy and are wondering what you can do (or avoid) to continue the relationship without scaring him away.
The truth is that women can do things that scare men every time. Don’t sabotage a great relationship that could go anywhere by scaring a man from the beginning.
Here are six behaviors that can easily scare men away.
1. Talking badly about your ex-boyfriend
It doesn’t matter if you’re on your first or 15th date with a guy. Never speak ill of your ex. Your ex-lover is someone you dated, invited into your life, and spent a lot of time with. So, never talk negatively about your ex. This is because the man will think that if he were to be his ex-boyfriend again, he would say the same bad things.
If a man asks about your ex, the only thing you should say is, “We’re not together anymore. We had a great relationship while this relationship lasted, and I’ve missed a lot.” I learned.” That’s it.
2. Pervasive paranoia
You’re dating a guy you really like, and things are going really well for the first few weeks. Then, the first men’s party will be held. You start off as the cool girl and send him a message before he goes out saying, “Have a good time tonight!” But as the night progressed, seeds of doubt began to grow in my mind about his behavior and I thought to myself, “Is he cheating on me? Is he cheating on me with another woman? You start thinking, “Where is he now?”
You send him another text asking, “What’s going on? What are you doing now?” Even though he says he’s just hanging out with friends, you screw up and start texting him all night to check on him. This paranoia drives men away faster than anything else.
3. You talk badly about other women.
A big mistake women make is badmouthing other women in front of the man they’re dating. For example, she is out with her boyfriend and a woman walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt. What is your occupation? You say, “How ugly that woman looks! She can’t believe she’s walking around in her public like that.”
When you make comments like this, you’re letting him know that you’re not confident in how you look. It tells him that you don’t love him for who he is and don’t accept his body. You are planting a seed of doubt in him, making him think about whether he should date someone else who is more confident.
4. They want compliments.
This is what drives people crazy. This is a typical scenario. The guy you’re dating looks at you and says, “You look really beautiful tonight.” After 10 minutes, you look at him and ask, “How do I look tonight?” Another typical scenario for him is that you tell a guy you really like him and he smiles and gives you a nice little hug and kiss. After 10 minutes, you ask him, “So, do you like me too?”
Many women do things like this all the time. Stop fishing for compliments. True compliments come from the heart. If you feel it, praise it. It’s okay to just accept it even if we didn’t feel it in the moment you expressed the emotion to us. Remember that compliments should be given without qualification.
5. Acts clingy and possessive.
When a man goes out with his friends, allow him to go out with his friends. You don’t have to do everything together. You are still getting to know him! If there’s something he wants to do and he’s simply not interested in you, chill out. There is no need to join at the waist.
If you go to a cocktail party together, you don’t have to be on top of him all the time. If you see him talking to a girl at a party, don’t immediately run up to him, grab his hand, and start giving him a big hug. When you’re clingy, we’ll want to get rid of you right away.
6. You’re too quick to push him on your friends.
A woman goes out with a man on the first or second date and says to him, “I want to meet you.” They’re a great couple, I’m sure you’ll love them. ” One man heard this and said, “I don’t even know you yet. How about I get to know you for a month or two before I have to go meet all your friends?” ?!” I thought.
We don’t want to be “boyfriends” right away. There’s too much pressure. We want to get to know you slowly and find out what kind of person you are. Believe me, once we like you and get to know you, we will want to get to know all your friends more.
David Wygant I’m a dating coach who has been helping men and women transform their love lives for the past 20 years. As a lead writer for Ask Men and the Huffington Post, his advice has been provided across television, newspapers, and magazines, including MTV, The New York Times, MSNBC, Fox News, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, and E!. Entertainment TV etc.