Your love for him is blind, irrational, and self-destructive.
Women ignore their brains when it comes to men. Infatuation weakens our reasoning abilities and causes men to ignore their intuition that it’s a risk to the relationship.
We love men who are impulsively attracted to good-looking, incredibly attractive, and aloof men who make us feel insecure, insecure, and lovesick. We build relationships based on chemistry and passion, but reject men who are caring, trustworthy, and doting (aka “relationship material”).
Relationship expert Dr. John Gray says single women and men should first use logic and reasoning to build a relationship, move the other person’s heart, and ultimately build intimacy. I am.
Good advice! It’s all about learning how to control your emotions.
Falling in love with a good man is a logical, rational, conscious decision, not based on sudden attraction or tingling sensations. By the way, it will disappear over time.
As single women, we believe that we are aware of the red flags of untrustworthy, rude, and deceitful behavior in a man and suspect him to be a potentially undesirable partner.
So why do we continue to date him, fall in love with him, and commit to him even though our inner voices are screaming “Run!”? Run! Run for your life! ”
As women, I think we feel that men distort facts, deny the truth, twist words, unfairly criticize, and disrespect our worth as human beings.
So why do we ignore and minimize his harmful actions?
Why do we choose men who cheat on us, men who won’t engage with us, men who won’t contact us, men who are emotionally and physically abusive, men who won’t take responsibility for their hurtful behavior? Will I continue to love and remain attached? , and cruelly abandon us?
Our lovesick feelings minimize obvious signs such as:
- He has a short temper and insults others. This means that he will despise and belittle you.
- He will be evasive, inconsistent with the facts, or exaggerate the truth to his friends and family. He will lie and deceive you.
- He is unpredictable and does not follow through on his words. He cannot be trusted in a relationship with you, and he will not be trustworthy.
- He badmouths his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend and denies all responsibility in the failed relationship. He will criticize and accuse you unfairly.
- He hasn’t been in contact with you while he’s been with you. He will be shy, quiet, and shy about your relationship.
- He becomes jealous and controlling while dating you. He becomes very controlling and abusive once you commit to him.
Be honest, which of these women are you?
Reality-based women: When considering a potential boyfriend or husband, you look at the facts. You weigh the positive and negative aspects of a person’s actions and character and do not discount his bad behavior. You suppress your emotions and desires while considering a relationship with him and logically decide whether to continue dating him or move on to a more suitable man.
Fantasy-based women: Your emotions and imagination influence your sensibilities. You evaluate men by your desires, emotions, and passion. You unconsciously (or deliberately) ignore the warning signs of a man’s toxic behavior, act negatively, justify his bad behavior, and impulsively fall in love with a man destined to abuse you. falls to
Girlfriend, pull your head out of the sand! You know that you recognize the man’s bad behavior and feel the truth about his undesirable traits, but you let your longings and emotions control your relationship decisions.
Want to stop the cycle of dating and falling in love with the wrong men?
Here are 7 little things the most attractive women do to find the right man.
1. Stop trying to fall in love
Instead, consciously try to find a nice guy that you’re likely to fall in love with.
2. Protect your emotions
Understand that everything a man says or does in the early stages of dating is just sweet talk.
3. Date multiple men at once
If you date multiple men, your emotions will be suppressed and you won’t be able to casually sleep with men. Because doing so would feel vulgar and unethical.
4. Trust your intuition
Keep a diary of desirable traits and unpleasant behaviors in men. Hard facts confirm what your intuition suspects.
5. Trust your girlfriend
If your girlfriend tells you that the guy you’re dating sucks, believe her!
6. Stop being romantic about men.
Dating hoping for a serious relationship can be delusional and disappointing.
7. Don’t pay attention to butterflies
Ignore the tingling, throbbing, lovesick feelings you experience with a new man. Understand that it is a natural part of your desire to need a man.
nancy nichols She is a best-selling author on self-help, dating, and relationships, an empowerment speaker, a notorious blogger, and a TV and radio talk show personality. She is an advocate for women who use self-help books to teach self-esteem building, the power of positive thinking, understanding relationships, and personal healing.