You have been in a healthy relationship for some time and everything seems to be going well. And of course you’ll want to keep it that way. That’s really great!
There are certain elements to a healthy relationship, and not all couples strive to maintain them. It’s important to be careful and protect your relationship from anything that could tear you apart.
Here are seven important characteristics that a healthy relationship needs to last forever.
1. Good communication
Nothing is more important to a healthy relationship than communication. When our partner doesn’t make us feel good, it’s important to tell them. It’s important to communicate that our partners are important to us. It is important that we tell our partner how much we love them.
Many people find it nearly impossible to be honest with their partner about their feelings. They are afraid of making themselves vulnerable and afraid of the consequences.
A wife or girlfriend may feel like all the effort they put into keeping their marriage together is gone because her partner is busy with work and she’s lonely. She may suggest to herself to go find her own interests.
But instead of doing this and giving up, she can communicate her needs and tell her partner that she’s worried about the fruits of her hard work disappearing.
Regardless of gender, partners need to be honest about their feelings. And once you do, you can make plans together for the near and distant future where all your needs are met.
2. The right amount of sex
Happy couples always have a sex life that suits them. There is no exact formula for how much sex a couple needs to be happy. Instead, each couple should decide what’s best for them, discuss it, play around, and meet each other’s sexual needs in a way that excites everyone.
For example, a husband wants to have sex every night, but his wife doesn’t want to, even though she really enjoys sex with him. He might feel bad because she might just decline his invitation. Instead, she can talk to him about it.
Explaining how one partner feels about the amount of sex they’re having can highlight important conversations about who “incites” the contact and what each partner can do to keep the other satisfied. there is.
So talk about your sex life with your partner and make a plan that works for both of you.
3. Inside jokes
A happy couple is like a small island unto itself. Sure, they have families and friends and jobs and responsibilities, but there are some things they can only share with each other. That’s an inside joke.
Imagine this. You and your spouse are having a family barbecue. There is tension over something. Then your father-in-law says something he always says, saying that you and your spouse used to whisper to each other in bed at night.
Make eye contact while speaking and connect. You smile, nod, and go about your day with a warm feeling in your stomach. It’s an inside joke and you’re all in on it, but it feels good to belong like that.
True love is about connection. And having secrets can be fun too. Inside jokes, or a combination of the two, are a great way to keep relationships healthy and fresh.
4. A promise to keep
Promises are usually made with good intentions, but when they are broken, the consequences can be dire.
Promises are all about trust. Trust is lost when promises are made and not kept. It’s better not to make promises you can’t keep than to keep breaking promises you’ve kept.
Suppose someone’s boyfriend keeps promising his girlfriend that he will see his children. But every time a meeting is set up, there’s always an excuse as to why the meeting can’t take place. Eventually, she will no longer want to see his children and she may eventually no longer want to be with him. In this case, she will lose trust in him.
If you make promises many times and don’t keep them, there will be no basis for the relationship. And without trust, what is there? Be careful with your promises. Remember how important they are to maintaining trust and love.
5. Two partners who don’t take each other for granted.
Don’t take anyone for granted. That’s true no matter where you are in your relationship.
When we first fall in love, our attention is completely focused on that one person. However, over time, we can become distracted by life and begin to neglect our loved ones. We stop staying in relationships because we know they are there and assume they will always be there. And the consequences can be dire.
For example, couples may expect their partner to never leave them, even if one partner isn’t always kind to them. They take their partner for granted and may plan to change their terrible behavior, but never fully implement it.
Do you think your partner will stay with you forever? Probably not. So pay attention to the person in the bed next to you. One day they might be gone, where would you be then?
6. Spend quality time together and share interests.
Yes, we are all busy, we have a lot on our minds, and we all have all kinds of pressures. However, it’s important to take the time to spend quality time with your partner. Spend time together doing what you both love.
In a marriage or relationship, one partner may go to work while the other takes care of the children. Free time will probably be spent focusing on the family, and the couple may be left with nothing.
As a result, they are no longer “the two of us” in the relationship. Instead, they work concurrently while raising children and managing the family business. This means you don’t get to spend time together, which can have a big impact on your relationship.
Find something you both like to do together and do it together regularly. Don’t forget that love in the hustle and bustle of life.
7. A desire to prioritize your partner.
There are many important things in our lives these days. Making money is one of the first things that comes to mind. Ensuring that children grow into successful adults is another challenge. Then there’s exercise. and friends. And a hobby. And your phone.
All of these are important. But what you realize when your partner is gone is that none of these things really matter because you don’t have a partner. So, make your partner your priority. every day.
Work is important, but so is going home for a date night. Did you go for a 15 mile run on Saturday morning? That’s fine, but if you can spend the morning alone with your spouse instead, consider that. phone? put it. Think of all the good things that come from making your spouse a priority.
Love is what makes the world go round, and it’s important to recognize that and take action to preserve love no matter what. Couples must do what is necessary to keep their relationship healthy and happy forever.
Mitzi Bockman is a New York-based certified life coach and mental health advocate who works exclusively with women to help them become whatever they want to be. Mitzi’s byline has appeared on The Good Men Project, MSN, PopSugar, Prevention, Huffington Post, Psych Central, and more.
This article was originally published at: let the dream begin. Reprinted with permission from the author.