Going back to my college days, for those of us who are considering marrying a woman, our goal is to make our soon-to-be wife feel like the luckiest woman in the world and feel like a queen. was the goal. We bought her flowers, listened to her stories, took her on dates that cost more than they actually were, and arrived at her mercy if she had a bad day.
We did this because we wanted to win her heart. Why is it so hard to translate this into a marriage after so many years?
After years of marriage, you learn a few things about how to treat your wife like a queen. For me, in my heart, I want my wife to know and feel that she is the most important person on earth to me. Her problem is, how? How can she make her feel like she’s the luckiest woman in the world?
Here are 7 great ways to make your wife feel like a queen.
1. Put her needs before your own.
in Article about “Serving Spouse”, we talked about the importance of putting your spouse’s needs before your own. I believe that if more couples practiced this, the success rate of marriages would increase dramatically.
Husbands, this is very important. Be your wife’s greatest servant. If you do this, you will win because you respect her and show her that her needs are important to you. Without it, she cannot expect to feel like the luckiest woman.
If you can do this correctly, your wife will feel honored every day of her life. And she will be just as respectful of your needs.
2. Appears suddenly and frequently.
5 Out of every working day, you stay late at work only on 3 days. Be home early (or on time) for the remaining two days of her life. Surprise her with lunch and spend time together when she’s at her house. She voluntarily accompanies herself in whatever she is involved with.
Not only should they appear unexpectedly and often, but you should also prepare surprises when possible. This one is also bigger than the flower.
Surprise her by taking all the kids out in the evening and taking her on a date. Surprise her by coming home early, volunteering to clean her kitchen, or taking her laundry upstairs.
When you do these random and seemingly insignificant acts for her, you not only take a burden off her, but also make her feel valued.
3. Think as if you were a university student.
During my college days, there was no distance I didn’t want to walk or measure, no distance I didn’t want to go see her, talk to her, be with her. Somehow this ends when you move from sharing a college campus to sharing her home, bed, and life with her. why is that?
Why don’t you adjust your class schedule to meet your future wife (even if you get a good grade) or skip class to hang out with her around town these days?it might be you should Start thinking and even acting like you did in your student days when you were actively with the woman you love.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together. When you turn on yourself the feelings you had for her in the early stages of falling in love with her, it shows that you haven’t forgotten what brought you together in the first place. And if you want to treat your wife like a queen, it is essential that she never forgets why she fell in love.
4. Give her 1 for every 3.
For every three hours you spend working or doing something you love, give her a full hour of your undivided attention. For example, if your girlfriend’s working hours are her 9 hours, she will give you her 3 hours. Total for the week will be her 15. This is a full weekend.
It’s easy to get caught up in everyday life like kids, work, bills, and housework. But spending quality time is the key to a long-lasting relationship. The same goes for not getting distracted by electronic devices or other responsibilities.
So when you give her an hour of your time every third time, you’re making an active effort to keep her engaged and invested in your relationship. And hey, if you decide to spend that time rubbing her feet, it will further elevate her to queen in your eyes.
5. I really want to be with her.
It’s one thing to say you want to spend time with your wife, but it’s another to actually want to do it. What do you think, everyone? She can tell when you’re faking it.
Our wives are not stupid. Even if she didn’t graduate because you got a college degree and she married you and she eventually started the most important job in the world as a stay-at-home mom, that doesn’t mean she’s smart. That doesn’t mean. she!
Instead of pretending you want to be together, actually Enjoy being with her! It could be as simple as ordering takeout and spending the night watching your favorite movie together, or it could be as grand as going on a weekend getaway.
No matter where you end up, consider it your mission to cherish every moment you spend with her.
6. Ignore the phone calls when you’re at home.
This is a big deal for me, and I’m sure it’s for a lot of people as well. Work is important, but so are relationships. You don’t want to work long shifts at work, then come home and sit at the kitchen table all night reading and responding to emails.
Work emergencies may arise, but most of the time they can wait. Because when you start prioritizing work emails over relationships, your wife will no longer feel like a lucky queen. She will feel like just a normal woman with a husband who doesn’t care about having anything to do with her.
You don’t have to constantly be on the phone to respond to tweets, texts, emails, and other forms of communication. Consider spending your down time together. she needs you She not only knows your presence, but also your concentration.
7. Date her.
You’ve probably heard this a million times by now, but it’s very important. Somehow, it loses its value when you get married. You may have dated your wife for a while before or after your marriage, but why does it feel like a hassle sometimes? Really think about it.
Well, the answer is simple. When you intentionally plan the time you and her spend apart (not just trips to her targets, but significant amounts of time), she will feel valued. Concise and simple. Guys, you need to make this a priority. In order to invest in your marriage and get to know your wife on a deeper level, you need to spend time away from your children and home.
So, let’s take a step and go out on the town together. Eat at the place you had your first date. Let’s go see the movie you’ve always wanted to see. Let’s take a walk, hand in hand, reminiscing about our early days.
Now, doing all these things to treat your wife like a queen can sometimes lead to confusion. I have something to do. It’s the most important job in the world. Your marriage is worth it. Your wife is worth it.
Please remember. She used to be your dream girl. She is the only person who can actually make your heart beat. Treat her as if she is still more than this. In fact, treat her like the queen of the world.
Mike Berry is an author, speaker, and family consultant. resilient caregivers. His work has been featured on Good Men Project, Yahoo Parenting, Babble, and more.
This article was originally published at: good person project. Reprinted with permission from the author.