If you’re new to online dating and aren’t sure which men deserve a right swipe, nod, wink, or message, you should be aware of some specific types of men to avoid.
Being aware of these types from the beginning will save you time and heartache later on.
At the first flash of attraction, it’s very easy to ignore or rationalize the warning signs. But all the information you need can be found on dating sites.
So keep this dating advice in mind. Don’t ignore alarms, bells, and flashing lights and run to the nearest exit.
9 Common Types of Online Guys to Avoid (If You Want to Find the Real One)
1. Flamer/Swindler
This is a major red flag. People who are trying to date you should not ask you for money or favors. No one’s here.
Never give money to someone you chat with on a dating site or app. If they ask you for money, stop talking to them.these Predators use online dating sites They take advantage of lonely women looking for attention and love.
This guy will say anything to build trust. He will try to drive you crazy. It’s all a manipulation to get him your hard earned money.
He needs to attend a family funeral. He is behind on his rent because his paycheck got lost in the mail. He is interested in immigrating to the United States from another country.
Such assistance is what friends and family are asking for, not the women he chats with online and wants to date. Your wallet and bank account are not part of the package.
2. Love Bomber
At first glance, is it attractive? of course. Real love at first sight? And just one look at your profile picture? Well, not really. This guy over-texts you in his messages, emails, or phone calls. immediately! “
No one falls in love with someone based on a photo, profile, or a short message.
Building relationships takes time. Players, narcissists, and sociopaths have plans with their partners. They often look intense. They move too quickly and get serious too quickly.
This guy wants you to believe he’s crazy about you.he does his best Strengthen your relationship to the point where it takes your breath away. And I swept my legs off.
3. Rusher
This person gets angry and irritated easily. If you don’t reply to his messages right away, he will sulk and complain about it. Or maybe he pressures you to meet up right away 15 minutes after you first exchanged messages. If you don’t see him, he may pout or try to nudge you into changing your mind.
This man may be needy, controlling, or jealous. Or maybe he wants to be with you for a little fun rather than building a relationship.
If this man is looking for something serious, he will take the time to have some conversations with you. He also waits until you get to know him before trying to meet you.
4. “Only here…” guy
If a guy says “I’m not looking for anything serious” in his profile, believe him.
He’s not here to find his soulmate. He’s not interested in a long term relationship. He wants to go on a casual date and have a good time. It’s not a crime.
Don’t waste your time on him unless you’re going on a fun, casual date. You’re not going to change him.
5. Serial data
This guy puts a lot of pictures of himself on his dating profile. He with another woman. A lot of them.
He is working to show the world, and you, that he is successful and proud of it. It is unlikely that he is looking for a serious relationship. And if he says the women in the photo are friends or relatives, he’s probably lying.
6. Mysterio
A guy who doesn’t have a photo of himself on his profile. Or his photos are poorly lit or blurry. He is wearing a sunshade and a hat. what is he hiding? Is he shy?
Mysterio may be in a relationship or married and may be having an affair. Or maybe not, but are you going to look into it?
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7. Unilateral SMSer
Unsolicited SMS senders can’t wait to send photos of themselves or shots of specific parts of their anatomy to women.
He will ask you to do the same. There’s one thing your annoying SMS sender is looking for.
Men who want to get to know you and build a relationship don’t want to show off their package right away. Nor are they focused on your feminine qualities.
If you’re looking for more than a casual relationship, don’t waste your time with him.
8. Party Boy
A photo or two of the man drinking or eating with friends is fine. More than that, you can see that his profile looks as if he’s still in college and living the frat boy dream.
If you’re looking for a mature man who doesn’t party every night or every weekend, skip the party boys.
9. Imaginary man
You can start to believe that this person is worth taking another look or meeting in person. He sends funny and witty messages. He is well spoken and polite. He talks about every topic under the sun, but never makes plans to meet you.
Unless you’re looking for a 21st century pen pal or forever fascinated by his story, move on.
Determine the set number of messages to exchange. It should be 4-6. This number is for you, not him. When you receive a phone call, tell them what you would like to talk about over the phone and make an appointment to meet. If he doesn’t or stalls, move on.
It’s important to stay safe, especially when learning how to date online. be happy. Enjoy the date as it is. It’s a great way to get to know someone.
Online dating is not that different from other types of dating. And it doesn’t just stop online. You want to have time to get to know the other person before you get involved and commit.
By knowing how to identify the types of men to avoid, you can focus on meeting men who are worth getting to know. lastly, don’t ignore your intuition And intuition. If something feels off or creepy, pay attention.
Donna Murphy is a life and relationship coach She complements her sessions with tarot card readings to empower her clients along their journey of spiritual growth and personal growth.
This article was originally published at: tarot of destiny . Reprinted with permission from the author.