Dating in 2023 isn’t easy! Dating apps can be difficult to navigate, and ghosting still exists. God, I’m tired just thinking about it. I came across this thread on Reddit. Asked We asked men to tell us about the most frustrating issues in dating today. The thread had a lot of interesting answers from a male perspective. Here’s what some people had to say:
1.“The only problem I’ve had is figuring out how quickly to escalate. Some women lose interest if you move too slowly, others lose interest if you move too slowly. It seems like the sooner you push it, the colder it gets. Online dating really exaggerates this, because you can’t get ‘feedback from body language during a conversation.’ ”
2.“Women want you to be close to them, but at the same time they are unapproachable to you.”
3.“How often do women ghost? We don’t really care about being rejected. Sure, it sucks. But that’s because we expect to date, so it’s pretty It will happen often. Reject me in any way other than ghosting. At least. If I get blocked, insulted, or politely criticized, I know what the other person’s intentions are. So I can move forward with my life.”
Four.“Women don’t understand why men aren’t weak, but being emotionally weak makes you lose respect. Women complain about the monotony of dating apps, then say hi when you don’t know them.” I say it’s not good. Because we are men, we are told that we are untrustworthy, uninteresting, naive, and that we are told to treat all women like queens.”
Five.“Women think I should chase them, jump through hoops to get their approval. No, I match your energy, and you have to reciprocate it.” Well, I can’t stand it. If they’re really interested, they’ll try harder.” ”
6.“My complaint with dating apps is that the vast majority of women’s profiles are just their Snapchat or Instagram handles and I expect them to text me on those apps.” Why should I use the texting functionality of another app when there is another app?
7.“The barriers to entry are very high, but at the same time, ‘the hurdles are on the floor.’ Having such low standards makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me, but I still can’t date. ”
8.“The most frustrating thing I see in dating is unstated expectations. When you read the profiles of women’s dates, the vast majority are about what they want. Men’s dates If you read the profiles of women, it’s mostly about what they have to offer.” In every relationship that emerges, there is an unspoken expectation that the man must fulfill the woman’s desires. is my experience when dating and getting married (even 30 years ago). Most of my male friends who are married have relationships that can be characterized as “Give me what I want.” If you don’t, you’ll be punished with negative emotions. If I have to make it long enough, the relationship will end.” Who wants that? Not me, of course. ”
9.“The most frustrating thing about modern dating is that most people, especially those my age (20-somethings), don’t try to form romantic relationships outside of dating apps, and even if they do, they don’t. Expectations have already been inflated by the app so much that it becomes just a romantic relationship. It’s a frustrating ordeal for both parties.”
Ten.“A first date with a woman my age will be a colonoscopy on your financial and relationship history. They want to know the details of your financial outlook and whether you can keep up. , or what they can offer. They also want to know what they want. “These are the men they hope to be buried next to someday. wants to know the deepest, most painful details of why your first marriage failed, known only to your two closest friends in the world.”
11.“The most frustrating thing we’ve seen lately is people being judgmental and worrying about what other people think. Whether it’s family, friends, whoever. Just being happy. What happened to that?”
12.“Before I quit the app, the general reason I was most frustrated was that women’s investment on the app side was unequal. , it doesn’t hurt to try to make things work.” But the standards women set these days are just ironic to me. Personally, I find that women are too spoiled because they match up “easily” and get attention from men. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have read any more “expecting” women’s profiles.They look like garbage, but they’re gentlemen. ”
“I understand women who want a perfect man who is strict and takes them seriously. And I agree that they deserve to be happy. But , if a man makes one mistake, he has already lost all his chances.”