First dates can be nerve-wracking. You only have one chance to make a first impression. That’s why you want to be cautious on your first date. Once you’ve presented your best self, you can relax and go on your date.
You can stop focusing on how to make someone like you and enjoy the time you get to know them for who they are.
won’t do that I look back and ruminate with regret About what could have been done differently. This is a great way to create the inner strength you need to overcome possible rejections.
Here’s what the smartest women said, did, and wore on their first date (to get a second date).
1. They enjoy the company of their date.
The most important advice is to do your best to have a good time on your first date.
For many women who think the purpose of a first date is to evaluate the other person and decide whether or not they’re worth your time, having a good time and going on a first date is counterintuitive. This is the worst first date strategy ever. why? Because it won’t be a fun date to be together.
Asking rapid-fire questions in an interview makes you seem serious and enthusiastic, but it’s definitely not fun. Resist the urge to find out and see if you can both have a good time.
Listen so they feel heard. People who are good at conversation often spend most of their time listening. Of course they need to know what you are, so you want to put in your two cents.
2. They provide fun conversation topics.
Don’t know what to say? Think about what fun things you can have in your life. Ask him what he likes to do in his free time. Does he have any hobbies? Does he follow any sports? And where is his team? Where does he vacation?
We talk about restaurants and what he likes on pizza. You can list some TV shows or movies and ask him what he watches. Chat about music genres, bands, concerts, and local venues.
There are also many local activities you may have visited, such as museums, baseball fields, historic sites, and farmers markets. Maybe you can find something you can do together on your next date.
Prepare answers to the questions you plan to ask so you don’t get caught off guard. I want to easily deploy the response.
3. I’m on time
It may not seem like a big deal, but everyone handles their time differently. For some people, being prompt is essential and being late is nothing but an insult. Please try your best to be on time. Anyone can run into traffic, so try to do everything you can to get to your scheduled meeting time.
4. They are wearing great things
Wearing nice clothes makes a good impression. Clothes affect mood and presentation. So if you think you look great, you really do!
Social research shows that color matters. The researchers who conducted the Research based on the British TV show “First Dates” We found that both men and women tend to wear black most often on dates.
It is wise to choose something that emphasizes you. You don’t have to be a fashionista to dress well. If you’re not sure what’s right for you, talk to your stylist or a fashion-savvy friend.
5. They emerge with a clear mind.
When your mind is clear, you shine. If your boss irritates you with traffic jams on the way to work or on the way home, take a few deep breaths and let the frustration go away. You only get one chance to make a first impression, so make it count. Being upbeat, relaxed, and happy is a comfortable way to keep things moving in the right direction.
You can imagine white light pouring down from the heavens all over your body, like a waterfall washing over your body. Or do a quick body scan and mentally imagine every part of your body relaxing as you move from your toes to your head.
This powerful exercise can be effective if you take just a minute to do it. Your intention is important, so stay focused while doing this exercise. Then imagine one happy thought before you walk through the door.
6. They don’t treat their date like a therapist.
You can’t imagine how many men are good listeners and will tell a woman all about their problems on the first date. If that happens, you won’t be able to get a second date. Remember, the date needs to be fun for them, so whether they’re interested or not, your long list of complaints won’t bother them. make a great first impression.
Also, keep the conversation balanced instead of sucking all the air out of the room with your story. If possible, give them equal time.
Finally, don’t talk about your ex, whether or not they bring it up. If they bring up their ex, try to change the subject. Your love war stories don’t make you look good and should be avoided until you get to know each other better.
7. They are aware of their body language.
Your posture and body language reveal more about you than you can imagine. You don’t have to be an expert to know someone’s first impression. So, sit up straight. Do not cross your arms in front of your body. It means being closed-minded.
Maintain eye contact, but avoid staring, which can be very aggressive. It can be helpful to look away from time to time to avoid scaring your date. If you are interested in what the other person has to say, lean towards them to show that you are interested.
Turning your head to the side when the other person is talking is also a sign that you’re interested. This shows you are thinking about what they are saying.
8. They put away their cell phones.
There’s nothing worse than going on a date with someone who’s constantly checking their phone or texting you. Your date won’t like it either. If you’re worried about your child’s phone, leave it on the ringer. I hear a noise inside my wallet. There is no need to take photos of food and drinks. Change your mood, focus on the date, and leave your phone alone.
If you’re on your phone during a date, it shows the other person that you’re not important to them and makes them put off their friends and social media. That’s not the message you want to send. It’s okay to take a break from your phone for 90 minutes during the date.
9. They look for common ground
Look for commonalities. When you find something, highlight it. This strengthens the bond and makes people feel warmer towards you. You’ll want to see where your interests naturally overlap. Because that’s one element of compatibility.
10. If you are interested, I will touch on it briefly.
If you feel like they’re a nice person, you might try touching their forearm or shoulder. When you do this, you are breaking the walls of your private space. Touch at the beginning of a date often feels like a numbing jolt. Especially if there is good chemistry.
This is effective when you want to say something interesting or make a point. Reach out with one hand and touch your partner’s arm or shoulder for 2-3 seconds, then slowly remove your hand. If they are interested, your touch will attract them.
11. They make him feel good and want more
Most people don’t receive enough gratitude. So, being polite and saying “thank you” to your date can earn you some points.
Instead, give your date a nice compliment like, “You picked the perfect place to meet,” “You’re so easy to talk to, we could talk all night long,” or “Thank you, we had a great time.” Please give me one. Have a great time! ” Keep your final compliment simple and don’t go on too long.
It may feel counterintuitive, but first dates should be relatively short. The idea is to make them want to know more about you. After 90 minutes, call it a day and go home, or meet a friend if it’s too early to call it a night. Whatever you do, don’t linger on the date or go on for hours.
Some people end up overstaying because they are having a great time. They get so comfortable that they start prematurely revealing personal details before the other person knows whether the information is worth knowing. That’s why it’s much better to leave them wanting more.
Ronnie Anne Ryan is an intuitive coach and past life reader. In her audio course, How to ask the universe for a signavailable to anyone looking for answers.