Law student and TikTok creator Annie Wright (@anniesright) She frequently posts videos about her relationship with her boyfriend, Michael Head, and receives many positive comments from her over 300,000 followers. Perhaps her most viral video is the one in which she details her actions at the start of their relationship, two weeks into their relationship.
Wright shared a 17-page “terms of relationship.”
“I joked about the idea and he said, ‘No, I’m serious.’ We can do it and we can talk about it,” Wright said during his talk. Told. The Sun interview. “I felt like the biggest problem I had in my last relationship was that I felt like I had crossed boundaries that I had never established. ‘Now I write down my boundaries. I thought, “No one can cross my boundaries.”
The result was her “terms of relationship” and his “pack of important information,” which were “presented together like ‘The Apprentice.'”
Her contract came with a table of contents and talked about boundaries, goals, family, and even future plans and relationship goals.
The four main “purposes” of a relationship are honesty, communication, recognition of each other’s needs, and maintaining clarity and alignment of intentions. These are pretty reasonable demands for any relationship, especially the first three.
Her contract includes references to “saying ‘no'” and “snooping,” and that “Emma comes first and foremost to everyone in my life,” meaning Emma is her dog. included, and her boundaries continue to be talked about. Head’s boundaries include asking for alone time, sleep schedules, and other considerations that will make the relationship more comfortable for her.
Both “About Me” sections included OCEAN percentiles for openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. It also includes a list of each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and discusses what you want your partner to do with/for you.
The relationship contract has worked so far.
Wright said the 17-page contract is a big part of the success of their relationship.
“This was a game changer. I recommend every couple sign up. It’s the best thing ever,” she said of the deal.
We asked the experts at YourTango and several agreed. Clinical hypnotherapist and spiritual life coach, Keya Martysays, “It’s a great idea to set boundaries and create rules early in a relationship,” adding, “A relationship agreement is a great way to create a prenuptial agreement or a package of expectations given to landlords to tenants, teachers to students, etc.” Something like that,” he added. Write down in writing what is okay and what is not. A mutually concluded contract is ideal for both parties involved. This agreement may be reviewed annually or as many times as necessary. ”
But not everyone feels the same way. marilyn sutherlandThe relationship and communication coach says it doesn’t come naturally.
“I think it might be overkill to have a written contract in the first two weeks. I think it’s important to observe someone and see how they behave,” Sutherland said. Told. “Giving them guidelines on how to interact with you doesn’t allow them to see how they naturally show up. I’m not saying they don’t have boundaries, but early on you can’t see how they naturally show up. It’s best to understand who the person is.”
But even Wright said it’s all business in their relationship.
“We treat our relationships much the same way we treat business interactions. We deal with conflict the same way we would with business partners. We sit down and say, We treat it as if it were there and the love is an added bonus,” she said.
It seems like it worked out pretty well for them considering they announced their engagement in October 2023.
Perhaps every relationship will need its own “Terms of Use” checkbox.
Isaac Serna-Diez is a writer focused on entertainment and news, social justice and politics.