When you date a man and fall in love, you don’t want to have any doubts. And while he knows it’s unrealistic and undesirable to expect a man to live up to superhero standards, he can rest easy when he asks himself if he’s the one. You want them to have an exceptional personality. Your life is by his side.
That’s why it’s so important to know what kind of husband a man will be before you think about marriage. So if you’re not sure if the guy you’re with is the one, there are some indicators of his personality that will tell you for sure.
If the man you love has these nine personality traits, he’s perfect for you.
1. He is well-groomed.
This is a man who always pays close attention to his haircut, takes some time to consider whether his clothes are appropriate for the occasion, and at least tries to get the dirt under his fingernails out before a date. He will try to look his best, especially when he is around you.
All of this may seem superficial, but it leads to one important point. That doesn’t mean he completely ignores the impact he has on others. He wants to look as well-groomed as possible for you, because looks aren’t everything, but they also reflect your inner qualities.
2. He is sophisticated.
He is not a self-centered person who needs to be the center of attention all the time. He’s not afraid of the spotlight, but he doesn’t need it to feel important as a man. In fact, he has no problem sharing that spotlight with you.
He can skip all the small talk and have a meaningful give-and-take conversation. He asks you questions about yourself, but his eyes don’t cloud when you start talking. In fact, he’s genuinely interested in what you have to say.
3. He is a fun and easy-going person.
This is a person who does not take himself too seriously. He allows himself to laugh heartily, and he laughs often, especially when he’s trying to tell a joke.
I want to laugh with you and I’m easy to talk to. Having a conversation with him is the opposite of pulling teeth. When we’re having a discussion, whether it’s something serious or something more casual, we seem to have an easy time.
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4. He is emotionally available.
He’s not a man-child afraid of commitment or an eternal Peter Pan trying to avoid the real responsibility of caring for people other than himself. He learned how to overcome insecurities, fears, and heartbreak, be emotionally available, and commit to a potential partner.
There is no doubt about his spiritual maturity. It is easy for him to maintain a strong bond with you and allows himself to be vulnerable towards you.
5. He is open, honest, and direct.
This man doesn’t play mind games, entertain himself, or indulge in relationship power plays as a way to feel like he’s in charge. He knows who he is and has no need to pretend to be anything other than himself.
If he likes a woman, he won’t keep her waiting or lost. He shamelessly invites a woman on a date, asks where she wants to go, makes arrangements and keeps her promise.
Even if he loses interest after the date, he will respond politely. Once he’s interested in her, he doesn’t just sit back and let her wonder how much fun he has playing with her emotions.
6. He is polite.
He may be wise, worldly, and highly intelligent, but still respects differences of opinion. Although he may enjoy a good discussion, he is not intimidated by different opinions and will not respond to competition by trying to impose his opinion on you.
Instead, he wants to hear all the different perspectives to gain a deeper understanding. And he never makes a fuss when there is a disagreement.
7. He’s real.
If he sees you as more than just play, he can show it by taking an interest in who you are, what excites you, and what you’re passionate about. Sho. He is genuinely interested in you and has no ulterior motives.
Don’t confuse him with a “love bomber” who asks too many intrusive personal questions as a tactic to make you fall in love. He’s a genuine, genuine guy and he doesn’t have to hide anything about who he is.
8. He is realistic.
Real men sometimes behave in a protective manner, but it’s not out of deep-seated insecurities or a desire for identity. He doesn’t need to be a superhero or a knight in shining armor or have his ego stroked.
He is not formal, does not need to be the center of attention, and does not cause unnecessary conflicts. In fact, he seems to get along with everyone he meets, especially you, and is easy to talk to and practical.
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9. He’s real.
Healthy men have a true identity and a well-formed sense of self: who they are, what they stand for, and their own beliefs and values. His behavior does not change depending on the company he works for, and his personality remains stable over time.
He doesn’t have to rely on a bad boy, intellectual, or tough guy persona to feel important. He is confident in his masculinity and his true identity.
If your man has these personality traits, you could be “the one.”
He’ll give you a place under his wing and give you genuine compliments, not just to score brownie points. His personality is consistent both with his mother and with his boss, and he can laugh at himself if he mispronounces a word.
When you find this guy, know that you are a protector and be sure to thank your lucky stars.
Joanne Brothwell, BSW, MSW, RSW, ACC, is a licensed therapist and social worker with over 20 years of clinical experience providing counseling to individuals, couples, and families.