Many couples have a good understanding of what cheating is, but one couple didn’t know where to draw the line.
Man Uploaded to Reddit to discuss a moral dilemma between him, his deceased ex-girlfriend, and his current girlfriend.
A man asks if it was a mistake to kiss his ex-girlfriend who was on life support.
The man explained that he was dating a woman who had been in a terrible car accident and needed life support. Her parents told the man to move on and meet someone else. So, after much therapy, he did just that.
Introducing his new girlfriend, Katie. The man claims she has “similar characteristics” to her dying ex-lover Anna.
He and Katie hit it off until they received word that Anna’s parents wanted to take her off life support. Before doing so, the boyfriend kissed her ex-lover on the lips one last time, telling her he loved her.
At the funeral, which Katie also attended, she read a eulogy and said that she loved Anna. When he confronts Katie, who asks what he means by that, he tells her about the time he kissed Anna in her hospital room, and Katie becomes furious with him. Katie called him a fraud and was so upset that she went to stay at his parents’ house.
Different people have different boundaries when it comes to cheating.
In some couples, cheating doesn’t occur until one partner sleeps with someone outside the relationship. For others, something as simple as keeping a secret is where the line is drawn. Even experts debate what really counts as cheating in a relationship.according to Couples and Family Therapist Jordan Madison, MS, LCMFT; The simplest way to define cheating is “it depends on what the couple decides about their relationship.”
“I think the big rule of thumb for determining whether it’s cheating is whether it’s secret,” Madison added. “Do you share what you do with your partner or do you keep it a secret from your partner?”
In this case, the man admitted in his post that he “felt guilty” about kissing Anna goodbye, but he didn’t think his ex-Anna posed an immediate threat to their new relationship, so there was no immediate threat. deaths complicate matters. But what it showed was that the man likely wasn’t ready to leave Anna and put Katie in a tough situation.
Many people pointed out that this issue has nothing to do with kissing.
“It probably doesn’t feel good to have a boyfriend who openly talks about loving another woman. It’s basically calling her a rebound or a second choice in public. It’s like calling,” one person wrote. “If that were the situation, I would also spend time away from OP, and he’s clearly not ready for another relationship and needs time to grieve.
A final goodbye kiss is perfectly fine. Anna was in a near-death coma and her life support had been removed. She is clearly someone he cares deeply about, and it seems impossible for him to return to her. But it hurts to try to recreate what you experienced with another person.
Moral of the story: Next time you want to start a relationship, forget about your ex.
Isaac Serna-Diez is a writer focused on entertainment and news, social justice and relationships.