It’s foolish to feel heartbroken over the loss of a man who never thought of you as more than a friend. It doesn’t seem right to be angry at him or blame him for the pain you’re feeling. It’s unfair to blame him for all your misfortunes.
Because when you met him, he honestly said he couldn’t commit to a relationship. He said up front that he wasn’t looking for anything serious. He has made it very clear that no restrictions will be placed between the two of you.
But you chose to fall in love with him anyway.
You chose him over someone else because you were hoping that eventually he would appreciate your efforts to stick up for him and realize that you were worth pursuing. You were sure that he would change for you and that he would make you his official lover.
You were willing to wait for him to make up his mind about you…and one day your world was instantly turned upside down when he broke the news to you that he was dating someone else.
And you pretended to be happy for him.
You fought back the tears that formed in your eyes. You forced a smile to show him how proud you were. Your entire world came crashing down inside of you as you wished him luck.
He shattered you into pieces without you even realizing it. And the worst part was that I wasn’t sure if I had the right to be sad or cry over him. Because the truth is – he was never yours.
But getting over a guy who never liked you is the same as getting over any kind of broken relationship. You have to accept that some things will not work out because they are not destined to be part of your story. They don’t stay in your life.
You have to believe that someone better will come your way. There is a love story that is perfect for you. And now is the perfect time to meet a man who truly trusts you.
But in the meantime, you have to be kind to yourself and give yourself the time you need to heal and move on. I have to stop feeling sorry for myself because one day I will forget him. I’m sure you’ll find someone to take his place in your heart. You will feel the love you deserve. And you will feel at home in other people’s hearts.
There’s no need to feel embarrassed about loving someone who has never had special feelings for you. It’s okay to be stupid in the name of love. It’s okay to hold on to the false hope someone gave you.
You may think it’s impossible to completely erase him from your mind, but after a considerable amount of time, you’ll slowly learn to let him go. You will realize that he is no longer worthy of your attention. And he will realize that there are many better players in the world than him.
He’s not the only one who can melt your heart. He’s not the only one who can make you feel weightless. And maybe he’s not the only soul mate for you.
Maybe someday you’ll find the perfect match for you too. And maybe you’ll just smile to yourself as you remember the time you fell in love with the wrong person.
Angelo Karlang is a writer and author of the following books: sparks of broken light. His byline has appeared in Puckermob, Thought Catalog, and The Mind’s Journal, where he writes about lifestyle and relationship topics.
This article was originally published at: thought catalog. Reprinted with permission from the author.