Many women devote all their time and energy to caring for their families. They cook and clean, but often their hard work goes unnoticed.
If there’s one thing a man should never do, it’s to joke about his wife’s cooking. Especially if the wife doesn’t prepare the meals and she’s just there to eat.
A man took to Reddit to complain that his wife was upset with him after he made fun of her cooking.
in his postexplained that he and his friends were joking about his wife’s cooking methods. It was a poor choice of topic.
The man was commenting on his wife’s food, and although he didn’t say exactly what he said, Reddit users said his wife’s chicken was so dry it looked like cardboard and the rice was always burnt. He pointed out a past post by a man who claimed that
His wife heard his unpleasant remarks about food and became angry with him. She confronted him and expressed her feelings of being undervalued, and he apologized. She forgave him, but not without a taste of his own medicine.
Women began to cook only for themselves and their children, and men began to look after themselves.
The man thought she would move on, but the wife decided that the man was so disgusted with her food that she would stop cooking for him altogether. He claimed her work schedule didn’t leave her with time to cook for herself, so she had no choice but to eat snacks or order takeout.
He didn’t think about how his jokes would make his wife feel. And now he had to take his words literally.
“I miss home-cooked meals and being with her. I tried cooking for her and the kids when I had time, giving her romantic gestures, and sending her flowers. But I’m still stuck in the current situation,” the man said.
It takes more than an apology and flowers to atone for ignoring your wife’s love and care despite your efforts to convince her.
The man claims that his wife’s anger has gone too far and tells her that he needs her to work with him to resolve the issue. The woman refused to discuss the matter further with him, explaining that she was handling the situation in her own time. In response, he said she was overreacting and that what she did was not that serious.
Reddit users supported the woman, saying her husband was out of line. Some said it pained her to see her own mother treated this way.
“My father makes everyone the butt of his jokes, especially my mother. I don’t know how they ended up together. With my father doing this, my mother can hardly talk.” one user commented.
Some wondered if this was the wife’s breaking point after a constant cycle of ridicule, criticism, and humiliation.
“I think she’s probably been despised and undervalued by this man for years. To distance herself, to refuse to do anything for him?” another person shared Did. “There’s definitely something deeper going on here. [the man] He doesn’t want to dig deeper because he thinks he’s a saint and hasn’t done anything wrong. ”
“Not only does it feel like my wife is unappreciated and undervalued, but it makes me feel like he’s disrespecting and ignoring her feelings. This isn’t about food. This is an act of him hurting himself. It’s about not taking responsibility for it,” added another.
Appreciate your partner’s efforts to show love and care for you, and take responsibility when you’re wrong.
Cooking is said to be one of the languages of love. When people cook for their loved ones, they put a lot of time and care into the food.
The man joked, essentially mocking her efforts. Why would she want to continue cooking for her partner if her partner complained about the taste of her own cooking?
Her reaction may be petty and emotional, but her feelings are natural and valid, and he probably deserves a lesson. All he has to do is open his eyes and acknowledge his wife’s feelings instead of invalidating them.
Whether my wife’s cooking is good or not is debatable. If he believes his wife’s cooking is that bad, then he should cook with her, go to a cooking class with her, or – wait for it – he should cook himself. Maybe I should have thought about doing that.
This issue is not just about food. It’s about appreciating what your partner does to make your life easier, and knowing how painful it is to be unnoticed and undervalued, let alone ridiculed.
A wife doesn’t deserve to be the punchline to her husband’s jokes. A man should consider his words wisely before making fun of what his wife will do for him. Otherwise, she may become hungry.
Francesca Duarte is a writer on YourTango’s news and entertainment team based in Orlando, Florida. She covers lifestyle, human interest, and spirituality topics.