What would you do if your sister got engaged to a married man? Evelyn Rafferty’s sister did just that, sharing the news on TikTok and posting a video of their engagement, writing, “What if he proposes before divorce?” , you’ll know it’s real.”
“Sister very excited [is] “You’re marrying a man who’s already married,” Rafferty explained.
“Someone has to tell the wife some exciting news!” she captioned the video.
In a statement, Rafferty said he is separated from his ex-wife but they have not yet filed for divorce. Somehow her sister’s wedding is just three weeks away.
Even though the wedding is less than a month away, legally speaking, the new couple cannot marry until the previous divorce is finalized.On average, it is It takes about 1 year After filing the documents, the divorce will become official and the engagement may proceed further. influence or delay divorce proceedings;. It will be difficult to hold at least a legally binding wedding within a month.
Rafferty clearly did not support her sister’s wedding and even tried to warn her before resorting to a TikTok post. “She tried to tell her but she wouldn’t listen. She just let her know,” she wrote in the comments.
Many commenters backed Rafferty for revealing the soon-to-be-married couple. “I love my sister calling out! Yes Mistress!” wrote one user. “She doesn’t listen to me so this might help her learn her lesson,” Rafferty replied using her laughing face emoji.
Dating while separated is a controversial topic.
Living separately while legally married doesn’t have to be complicated. Like it or not, the ex-couple is still inherently connected, so it can feel like they’re living in limbo.
Since they are not divorced yet, his former spouse is probably still considered his next of kin and can make medical decisions on his behalf. Additionally, in the case of separation, the financial situations of the two spouses are often still linked.
Some commenters shared this concern. “Wait, if he bought that ring before his divorce, that’s an asset,” one user wrote. “Her wife might get half of it,” Rafferty replied to the comment, “her sister would be mad if she got it.”[s] Also furniture and home appliances. And spousal support,” she wrote.
Many commenters were concerned by the man’s apparent rush to remarry. Some questioned his motives, perhaps using her as a home. Rafferty responded to those comments, pointing out that his sister’s new fiancée is in the military. “He doesn’t want to go back to the barracks,” she wrote.
The timeline for recovery after a breakup is highly subjective, and there is no one right way to move on.
Still, jumping from one serious relationship to another is usually not a wise decision. Ideally, take time to heal, grow, and learn from your first marriage before committing to a second marriage, especially since second marriages are more likely to end in divorce. In fact, in America 60% of remarriages end in divorce.
Paulette Kuffman Sherman, Ph.D., psychologist, author of Dating From the Inside Out; told glamor She recommends waiting at least a month or two before starting a new relationship. Even longer if the relationship lasts more than a year with her.
“If you’ve been in a fairly serious relationship, most people take a month or two to process the breakup, grieve, integrate the lessons, and then get back together,” she said. “That way, before you go back to your next relationship, you can feel complete and have a high sense of self-worth, and you’re not just trying to fill that hole.”
Whether or not the couple goes ahead with their wedding, Rafferty assured commenters that she will keep them updated on this story.
Audrey Jaber is a Boston-based writer and assistant editor at YourTango.