If you know someone who is an avid social media user, you’re probably familiar with the annual anniversary posts that couples dedicate to their partners and spouses. Phrases like “We’ve been through a lot together” and “I couldn’t ask for a better partner” will probably hit home.
Some people might read these social media posts and take them as an indication that the person is in a happy and healthy relationship. However, according to frequent users of social media, it may actually be implying quite the opposite.
According to TikToker Faith Nice, “The longer the caption on your anniversary post, the worse your relationship will be.”
She’s not alone in believing in this philosophy. Entrepreneur Sam White (@samwhiteout) not only agreed with the Nice Declaration; Shared other metrics The anniversary post revealed that the couple’s relationship is in turmoil.
She said that if a man in a relationship talks about all the “ups and downs” the couple has had over the years, that moment is “all ups and downs,” implying that the man may have been unfaithful. It is claimed that
White also believes that the way a man describes his partner in his anniversary post can tell you a lot about how he really feels about her.
“He doesn’t like her when he talks about her and describes what she does and what she does for him, rather than who she is as a person.” he says. “He’s happy to have employees he doesn’t have to pay.”
Furthermore, White argues that anyone who refers to their partner as a “real man/husband” or “real woman/wife” begs the question, “Real for whom?” Being authentic to what is expected of a husband or wife, or by their own standards, even if they are not treated well by their partner.
“Also, most straight men don’t like their partners,” White added.
Other TikTok users agreed with Nice and White’s claims, based on their own personal experiences.
One user commented: “My sister just posted her longest anniversary post and she missed the birth of her third child because her husband had an affair.”
“Sister-in-law’s anniversary post is just sickening. I know they hate each other,” another user shared.
However, some tried to debunk the theory that the long anniversary caption hinted at a disastrous relationship.
“I’ve been married for 26 years and I always write long posts. I’m just a romantic,” one user revealed.
“For me it was the opposite. When I was in a toxic relationship, the posts were short or non-existent. Now that I know true love, I can write a book!” another user wrote.
Some people exaggerate details about their relationships on social media if they feel insecure about their relationships.
There is no conclusive evidence that a long series of anniversary posts on social media means the relationship is unhappy. but, A study conducted by researchers at the University of Kansas They found that couples who frequently posted about their relationships tended to be “less happy” than couples who posted less.
Some may ask themselves why if the couple is not so happy with their relationship, they often post photos of each other and can only say that their partnership is good. yeah. The hard truth is that they may be trying to make others, and themselves, believe that their relationship is perfect, even though it is far from perfect. Some people may believe that if they can trick their co-workers or followers into a happy relationship, they will feel less anxious about it.
“People who overshare may be genuinely happy and want to express that through social media, or it may be because they feel they have something to prove to their peers or from other areas of their lives where they feel insecure. Maybe they want to take the focus off,” Daniel Kepler said. Owner of DK Therapy, specializing in couples. told Huffington Post.
“At this point, it’s become conventional wisdom to smile in photos, even if you just had an argument five minutes before the photo was taken.”
Some people believe that if they paint a false image of an ideal relationship on social media, it will show up in their lives.
But the truth is, if you are dissatisfied with your relationship and want to improve it, you should not rely on social media and fool yourself. Instead, you should talk to the people you admire in every post and try to make all the shiny photos and corny captions come true.
Megan Quinn is a writer for YourTango, covering entertainment and news, self, love and relationships.