I blame myself for not being disciplined and thinking positively as a child. I feel sad and anxious when I see him, but I just want to enjoy his wonderful presence.
I know it’s silly to imagine saying something that wouldn’t feel like an invasion or criticism to him, but this overwhelming feeling of having to find the right words, tone, and intervention to make the other person uncomfortable. What should I do now. difference?
I can’t believe my childhood is over. I have spent the past two years working on my health with exercise and nutrition to distract myself and show him what is possible. I kept my mouth shut. But that love feels like pain. How can I let go?
parent: So you’ve gotten more serious about exercise and nutrition over the past two years. But does he have to do it now?
Only change course when you are fully prepared. That applies to him too, even if it took over 28 years. And he is just as entitled and equipped to figure it out for himself as you are.
You, on the other hand, don’t enjoy his “great presence,” if you say so yourself, because you’re worried that he won’t be around as long as you’d like. What good is spending time with him if you’re constantly feeling anxious?
We all have two choices. Do we trust that our loved ones will live a fulfilling life on their terms and enjoy every moment with them, even if their terms don’t last as long as we would like? But it’s up to you to get through it while worrying. we set off.
We all reach an end point where we are definitively and permanently not well. That’s why I offer this as a password with a straight face. “He’s fine.” He’s okay. No matter what happens.
Hope this helps: Your best parenting days regarding his eating habits ended the first time he sat down to eat food you didn’t offer him and he was able to buy food with his own money. Sometimes it’s over for good. That part of parenthood ends early.
· Al-Anon may be useful to you. Or it could be an adult child who is addicted to alcohol. Sure, your son doesn’t drink, but they’re teaching him how to be “okay” with whatever he does. It taught me to enjoy being with my loved ones again instead of worrying about them and wanting to strangle them for not making a change. I They were convinced they should make one.
· You have no control over or opinion about your son’s weight and exercise any more than he has any control over or opinion about your body.
· Jaysus, I wish people would understand the damage that is done when they feel the need to comment on someone’s weight or diet. Not so: we have a lot to gain, we have a lot to lose, we are eating too much, we are eating too much, we are eating the wrong things, we are eating only the right things. Just say, “I genuinely like you as a person, and I don’t want you under any tactics, tricks, formalities, “manipulative” comments, worries (“worries”), innuendos, laws (ahem!), etc. You have absolutely no right to comment on someone’s body. means. “