I’ve been helping men with online dating for years. I’ve helped men avoid doing things online that women can’t stand, and we know there’s a lot of that stuff out there. Having helped men for so long, I’ve also seen the other side of the coin. A lot of women do some pretty annoying things online. I’ve compiled a list of some of the biggest complaints I hear from my male clients about women online.
Here are some of the things that offend men online (in a bad way):
1. Your photos are all wrong
Selfie Queen (Face photo only): A selfie in the car, a selfie at work, a selfie here, a selfie there, it makes no difference where you take it because all he can see is your face. Your selfie pose may be perfect, but guys are online wanting to know more than just your selfie.
“It’s frustrating when this photo becomes a guy’s only recourse. Decide what you look like“Unless you’re a magician and only plan to show your face on the date, include other photos that show off your actual body. People will naturally want to see what your whole body looks like before messaging you and meeting you. You are you. There’s no point in trying to trick someone.” — PD
Queen of Instagram: Let’s be honest: Instagram is a cool app. We women have never looked as cool, nostalgic, or bright as we do on Instagram. But we’ve never looked like Instagram. Unless you’re showing off your filters to a guy on a date, it’s going to be hard to use your Instagram feed as a photo collection. It communicates how you look in the clear present.
“I don’t want to know if she’s good at using a photo program, I just want to know what she looks like!” — AE
Queen of Weird Angles: “You always have your head in the position that men expect you to see. As your most attractive But we’ll keep scrolling for a straight-face shot.” — JB
Pictures with friends: “Don’t make a picture with a friend your first photo, because you never know who to look at. Don’t just post pictures with friends. If you post a picture with a friend, make sure you specify who it is, because it’s not always obvious. Also, if you post a picture with a hot friend, prepare to not get any attention. It can’t be helped.” — D
Only one photo: “Women online Only one photo will be uploaded. We all have photo phones. We all have computers. Post more pictures. I think girls like this are liars or cheaters.” — ML
2. Your profile is not attractive
Your profile has nothing to tell you: “I don’t like women who have nothing to say in their profile. Or who say, ‘Ask me anything you want to know!'” A nude profile is not cool. How do you know if someone is interested? You don’t want to guess. A lot of women complain that their profiles have no substance and that men just say, “Hello” or “How are you?” Hey, do you want me to write something original? Write something that piques your interest. If not, don’t expect too much.” — KD
To summarise with the other men: “Look, I’m online, Good personBut I always see profiles of women online who are angry at these men and the horrible things they do and don’t do, what they want and don’t want. I’m not these men, but I feel like I’m being lumped in with them and branded as a horrible person before I even step up to bat. I don’t enjoy writing to these women.” — W.S.
3. Not friendly at all
If not interested: “I hate it when girls reply to my texts and then don’t reply. I know a lot of girls do that because they don’t want to be rude, but I’m an adult and if I’m not interested I either say so or don’t reply and I’ll reach out to someone else.” — BN
Expecting men to do all the work: “I hate feeling like I have to do it all. I have to find them, read all about them, come up with interesting things to ask them, make them feel like they stand out, and then hope they respond. And when they do, they’re usually just… Respond with a sentence or word. Women don’t ask me questions back. One-sided conversations aren’t cool. It’s not cool to expect the man to do all the work. I thought we were living in a time when women could do everything as men, so why do so many women expect the man to do everything when it comes to dating? — Radio Frequency
Not giving a chance to those who are trying: “I’m a good guy and I’m genuinely looking to meet someone online to share my future with, but I feel like I’m being put through a gauntlet of not knowing what kind of offense I’m going to cause these women. Was I not witty enough? Did I not fit the height range? Did I use ‘there’, ‘their’ and ‘they’re’ wrong? I know my photos are a bit crappy but I’m a guy and I don’t take photos. I try really hard but anyway… I always feel like something is missing What do they expect the “perfect man” to look like? — CU
Do not go offline: ““I hate it when you message a girl, email her back and forth a few times, then ask for her number and she disappears. If you’re not going to meet her, why are you online? It shouldn’t take months.” — Missouri
date: “She doesn’t look like her photo. She’s just plain uncool. Maybe it’s a weight issue, maybe it’s an age issue, maybe her hairstyle is totally different. They advertise one thing and show up with another.” — R.J.
Gina Stewart She is single-mindedly focused on helping people get the date they want. Her philosophy is that while dating may be hard, meeting people shouldn’t be.