All relationships have ups and downs, and it’s not easy for most people to maintain the initial feeling of happiness they experienced when they first fell in love.
That said, there are some psychology-based strategies you can implement to maintain your own sense of satisfaction and deepen intimacy and love with your partner.
Try these five mindful psychology tricks to deepen intimacy and love in your relationship with your partner.
1. Take a short break during the conflict.
This is easy to say, but not always easy to do. For example, if your boyfriend asks you a question, you often feel like you have to answer right away, but do you want to answer right away or do you want to answer thoughtfully?
It’s okay to ask for space by saying, “Give me some time to think about that,” or “Can you get back to me tomorrow?” I would like to think seriously about this. ”
Intense conversations are often like a runaway train, and a lot can happen unconsciously in the moment. Slowing down your interactions with your partner helps you identify your triggers and increases your mindfulness and awareness of your reactions.
2. Meditate.
Even if you already practice meditation regularly, it may be time to dig into it on a deeper level. This has wonderful ramifications, as rewiring of the nervous system can occur.
Research shows that our brains and neural networks Meditation can make a big differencecan ultimately make us better, more balanced people and ultimately have a positive impact on your relationships.
This new neural programming calms your limbic system (which governs your behavioral and emotional responses) and allows you to be more involved in your own thought processes, so you can respond more consciously to your partner. Become.
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3. Visualize your relationship goals.
what do you want from your relationship? By imagining your ideal interaction, you can get in touch with your heart deeply.
So ask yourself who you want to be in the relationship and how you can bring your best self to each interaction with your partner. This practice helps you get in touch with yourself and your loving intentions, similar to Michelle Obama’s quote, “When they go low, we go high.”
To build happier relationships, it’s important to define yourself instead of being passive and letting someone else’s actions dictate your actions. Through visualization, you can creatively “rehearse” several possible responses that you are happy with.
4. Document your experiences with your partner.
How many times have you said, “I wish I had done this…”
Journaling can be a productive exercise for slowing down and reflecting on past interactions in your relationships. By writing about what happened, you can reflect on the scene moment by moment and ask yourself, “What was happening to me at that moment?”
Explore what you were feeling, what you were thinking, and what was happening inside your body. These all provide tips to help you identify and release emotional triggers.
It takes years to gain important insights, but slowing down and journaling about the experience can help you pinpoint the exact moment when you changed.
The more you write in your diary, the more conscious you become. And with practice and review, you’re much more likely to be able to stay aware and centered in the present moment, which will help you stay happy as you navigate hurdles in your relationship.
5. Learn to recognize “transference.”
metastasis, According to Merriam-Websteris “the directing of emotions and desires, especially those unconsciously held from childhood, toward new objects.” Simply put, someone can unconsciously remind you of someone else, and when that happens, negative emotions are triggered.
You are not actually angry at that person, but you are “transferring” your emotions to that person instead of the actual person who hurt you. And when that happens in relationships, conflict can arise.
Metastases can be subtle and difficult to detect. One hint that someone is experiencing this with you is if, no matter what you do, your actions are never right for them. Try to be kind, try to be avoidant, have healthy boundaries, be inspired, and give as good as you can. Everything feels really messy and bad.
It takes a highly evolved person to be able to instantly recognize that. So be aware that your partner may be acting out of hurt, shame, abuse, abandonment, contempt, or rejection. Similarly, try to remain conscious, centered, and within your heart to avoid transference to your partner.
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To supplement these mindfulness exercises, please seek guidance from a qualified professional if necessary. These people will give you the kind of support you need, help you slow down, recognize what’s going on, identify metastases, and stop feeling like a victim. trained to help.
Learning how to find happiness and inner peace for yourself will make it less difficult to overcome problems with your boyfriend or girlfriend, leading to healthier and happier future relationships.
Marijo Puleo holds a Ph.D. He earned a master’s degree in psychology. She is a physically trained energy coach and Spiritual awakening to live mindfully Podcast.