A woman was stunned to check her ‘perfect’ boyfriend’s phone while he was sleeping and find thousands of messages insulting her and degrading her sex life.
Lily* from the US believes she is in the “healthiest relationship ever” with a “doting” and “caring” man and looks forward to spending the rest of her life with him. I did.
But on a hunch, she woke up in the middle of the night and secretly searched his name on his phone.
Lily revealed that her boyfriend and his friends mocked her body, claimed they “hated” their sex life and “couldn’t stand her in public”. He said he encountered some “dirty” emails that sent messages to people.
“He and his friends spent hours making fun of what I said, degrading me and embarrassing me,” Lily said through tears. “Every insecurity I had was reflected in his group chat and became a punchline.”
A woman was stunned to access her boyfriend’s phone while he was sleeping and find thousands of messages insulting her, degrading her sex life and containing homophobic slurs. It was made.
She shared her story in an online post that has now been deleted.
“I don’t condone people looking into cell phones. I think it’s wrong and an invasion of privacy.” I had no reason to look into his phone, but what I found struck me to the core. It shocked me.
“He calls my intimate parts ‘weird’ and says he doesn’t like what I do in bed, saying things like ‘it’s hot, but not when Lily does it’ and ‘it’s kinda hot, but…’ I made a mean joke like, ‘Then this son of a bitch opens his fucking mouth.’
Lily also revealed that she was openly pansexual and worked with a number of LGBTQ+ nonprofit organizations, which led to her boyfriend calling her a “slut.” Ta.
“He would go on and on about things like, ‘I can’t stand it,’ and ‘I’m really lame.'” “I told him he was with me,” she wrote.
She revealed that most of her boyfriend’s energy was spent explaining how much he hated her and wanted to break up with her.
“The whole thing was very misogynistic and homophobic. And he said women shouldn’t be responsible for anything, because we’re the reason the world is going bad.”
Lily said her boyfriend and his friends exchanged “dirty” emails in which they mocked her body, claimed they “hated” her sex life and “put up with her in public.” I can’t do it,” he said.
Lily was lost and confused because the man in the message looked nothing like the kind boyfriend she had come to know and love.
“I felt like I was reading a stranger’s messages instead of a loving and supportive boyfriend. He supported me endlessly and told me how much he loved talking about the things I was passionate about. I thought we shared the same values.
“We never fought, we always spent time together and he was always doing everything for me. Whenever we had a problem in our relationship, we talked about it and he stepped up in the perfect way.”
She revealed that she had never seen anyone with such a dual personality before.
“I broke up with him right away, he tried to explain it but I couldn’t listen to him. It was one of the weirdest breakups ever and I felt so sick to my stomach. It hurt.”
Lily was lost and confused because the man in the message looked nothing like the kind boyfriend she had come to know and love.
Thousands of people were equally appalled by the Jekyll and Hyde situation.
“I can never be with someone who treats me badly in front of my friends in order to gain recognition. It’s very humiliating and I honestly can’t forgive it,” the woman said.
“Psychopath and narcissist. Top level lies and manipulation,” another wrote. “Anyone who aspires to be that type of person or fit in with those types of people is really disturbed.”
A third said: “I’m sorry you had to go through this. A good man wouldn’t say nasty things about you or share information about your intimate life.” I hope you don’t grieve the loss of him because you realize you never knew the real him. ”
*Names have been changed to protect personal information.
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