You’re probably doing things that make your partner uncomfortable without even realizing it. Even if you have the best intentions, doing these things can embold your lover to break up with you.
Although the dynamics differ for each couple, there are some common bad habits that develop in relationships that, if left unchecked, can unintentionally lead to breakups.
Knowing which self-destructive behaviors to avoid can help keep relationships healthy and long-lasting love.
Here are six things to stop doing in a relationship if you don’t want to break up.
1. Not grateful
Have you ever had someone who didn’t care or notice all the things you did for them? This is a very common complaint and one that makes you feel miserable.
lack of gratitude It’s more destructive to relationships than anything else on this list. why? Because over time, an unappreciated partner will feel like they don’t matter to the other person.
Love turns into resentment, relationships begin to crumble and burn.Have you heard of it? Eli Wiesel famously said, “The opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference.”• Not recognizing the small sacrifices the other person makes for you every day sows the seeds of deep anger.?
2. Not being able to be appeased
Sometimes relationships end because you can’t make your partner happy.
Happiness is an aphrodisiac. If you’ve ever heard your significant other say, “Aren’t you happy no matter what I do?” these words are alarming. This is insidious because partners often internalize common complaints and criticisms as their own fault, especially if they can’t resolve the issue.
It’s not a drastic change that anyone can point to and say, “One day they weren’t happy again.” Unhappiness, over time, erodes a person’s confidence in their ability to please their partner.
That is why it is doubly important to foster a happy and cheerful atmosphere in your relationship. If you aren’t happy, they won’t be happy either.
Keep that in mind when sharing your disappointments and frustrations, whether it’s your lover’s fault or not.
3. Act like you’re the boss
In a relationship, one partner may be guilty of being bossy or commanding his or her partner.What you need is Healthy communication about your wants and needs. In some cases, the key issue may be how you get your message across. It can also be negative energy behind the message.
If you’re used to being in control and highly efficient at work, it might be time to take some time to make the switch when you get home.
Take a few minutes for yourself between activities to help ease the transition from boss to loving partner.
4. Abandoning self-care
It’s common for someone to start a relationship and become less active or wear sweats all the time and think it’s no big deal.
Couples often get stuck in a vicious cycle together, only to wake up one day and realize they need to improve each other’s physical and mental health.
5. Urge
Pegging is not fun for either the pester or the pester. It creates an unpleasant situation where one partner suddenly feels like he has been thrown back into childhood, with his mother constantly telling him to pick up her socks. The pester feels that her partner is complaining but not putting her emphasis on the relationship. This is not a big power relationship.
Not only should you stop if you tend to be pestered, but if you are being pestered, consider how you can help, remember details, and make your partner feel more valued. It’s time to start.
I’ve been on both sides, and this harassing relationship can become a habit between couples.
6. Mutual friend time discount
A great relationship requires hobbies, outside interests, and strong friendships. If you’re having a hard time keeping the sparkle, understand that you may both need some time apart, but in a good way.
Maintaining your friendship and giving your partner time to maintain it as well will help provide the atmosphere necessary for a relationship to be successful.
Elizabeth Stone is a relationship coach. Attract the One and A luxurious selfie. Her work has been featured in Zoosk, PopSugar, The Good Men Project, Bustle, Ravishly, SheKnows, Mind’s Journal, and more.