Are you struggling with dating right now? The good news is that it’s not your fault, it’s because all the men are on vacation.
Tessa SnowThe 30-year-old lives in Newcastle and has been single on and off for five years, and at this point she’s an expert who has worked out why dating slows down over the winter and, thankfully, is ready to share it with others.
“If you’re struggling with dating right now, don’t worry, don’t ever fret, the love of your life is probably in Europe right now having the time of their life and doesn’t even know you exist,” she explained.
Snow posted the PSA on TikTok, where it has been viewed more than 40,000 times on the platform.
She added that she felt she had picked the “worst” time to start dating again because everyone knows Australian winter is when all the men go on annual leave to Europe.
That’s right, it’s that time of year when Australian men head out to soak up the culture.
Are there too many guys just hanging out in foreign pubs drinking with friends? A big difference in the culture is that pubs play football instead of rugby league. Yes, but that’s beside the point. Their exodus is causing a significant male shortage.
The single Australian told news.com.au he has seen his dating options dwindle with so many men fleeing the country.
“There are a lot of men currently roaming around Europe or planning to head to Europe in the next few weeks, so there are very few women available to date,” she said.
Single guys who haven’t yet embarked on their European trip also have a problem: What’s the point in falling in love with someone new if you’re already packing your bags for a new adventure?
“So if I match with someone and we talk, and they’re off to Europe, I’d rather they have the time of their life and come back to visit me again when they get home, otherwise I’d be hesitant to continue chatting with them,” Snow said.
Fellow single women online were quick to discuss the dangers of dating at a time when so many men are on guy-trips.
“I pray and hope this is true,” one person wrote.
“Dating in Melbourne is the worst,” said another.
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“I’m literally banging my head against the wall because of these Aussie boys,” one person admitted.
“They gave back $20,000. [about $13,348 USD] “You’ll end up in debt on vacation,” warned another.
Snow lives in Newcastle where “everyone knows someone” so dating isn’t easy no matter how well things go.
“We single women are waiting for someone new to move into town or for a long-term relationship we had in our 20s to end,” she explained.
A single Australian woman said dating in Australia has always been “difficult”, even when all the men aren’t in Europe.
“I think dating in Australia is always going to be tough, especially with the rate of domestic violence in the country. This is another caveat. I never go ahead with anything with anyone unless I can confirm their character and relationship history with mutual friends,” she said.
What’s more, Snow found that even if she found the guy to be decent, Australia’s dating culture didn’t inspire any romantic vibes.
“I also think there’s a culture within some groups of men that thinks it’s shameful to really want a serious relationship, but they want everything a serious relationship needs except the label and the commitment — so they want a situationship because someone better might come along,” she said.