sex and relationships
These flags are so red that they can bring back the Soviet Union.
An Austria-based psychotherapist shares three subtle ways narcissists reveal themselves on a first date.
“It’s important to take the time to get to know the other person gradually. This will prevent you from falling into the manipulation and traps of a narcissistic individual.” Dr. Alina Kaestner told Barron’s.
“Our society is built on the desire to believe in Hollywood love stories,” she added. “They are very persuasive and seductive, drawing people in with their confidence and charisma. However, this charm masks their true intentions and manipulative nature to get you involved. It could be hidden.”
Kaestner’s TikTok The article about the warning signs of narcissism has received 2.4 million views since it was posted last month.
notice love bombing
Kaestner says the first sign to look out for is love bombing, a not-so-subtle tactic of bombarding someone with compliments and gifts.
“This can create a sense of euphoria and make you feel special, but it’s often a manipulative tactic to quickly establish a strong emotional connection,” she told Newsweek.
“[They] It should make you feel calm, safe, and calm. You should feel as if you have reached a very important point. [homey] energy. “If they immediately make you feel like a million bucks, that’s a red flag,” she explained.
Kaestner says having superficial conversations rather than trying to get to know yourself on a deeper level is also a red flag to watch out for.
Previous research has linked clinginess to fateful love.
say you’re the first date
Talking about eternity is putting the cart before the horse, and this is also a big red flag.
“A narcissist may claim very early on that you are their soulmate or the perfect match. This usually happens on the first date,” Kastner advised.
While this manipulative tactic may sound similar to compliments and love-bombing, where you make someone feel special, soulmate chit-chat can give the recipient a deep connection with the narcissist. Designed to make you feel instantly.
“While this tactic is certainly designed to create a feeling of deep connection, it is often insincere,” Kastner noted.
“Narcissists are good at mirroring your desires and presenting themselves exactly as you want in a partner, even if it’s not authentic,” she added.
too enthusiastic
Don’t take excessive behavior as a sign that your partner likes you too much. Also, don’t show it yourself.
Kaestner warns that the feeling of being “adrift” can make you easily fooled by a narcissist.
“Being extremely agitated and irritable can be a result of the intense emotions and attention the narcissist is giving you,” she said.
“Narcissists aim to create an emotional roller coaster where one moment you feel on top of the world and the next you feel anxious,” she said. “These emotional fluctuations can drive you crazy and make you more likely to miss potential red flags.”
If things seem to be moving too quickly, that’s also a cause for concern, the psychotherapist added.
“They may also seek rapid emotional and physical intimacy to quickly establish a ‘deep connection’ in order to get you hooked because of this.” It’s not from real love. It’s about manipulating and controlling you,” Kastner said.
“This can cause the relationship to move at an unusually fast pace, making it difficult to step back and assess the situation objectively,” she continued.
And if things seem “too good to be true,” they probably are.
In cases like this, Kaestner suggests taking the proverbial cold shower, no matter how difficult it may be.
“When you feel like you’ve just met someone, it’s very difficult to zoom out to objectively evaluate them,” she said.
Another relationship expert warned that when a narcissist says “I love you,” it can be both a control strategy and a warning sign of a cheater early on.
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