- I’ve always been obsessed with twins, and even though I don’t have twins, I married one.
- My husband has a twin sister.
- I learned five important lessons about twins after marrying them.
Twins are special in nature and command attention. Both of these prominent reasons have made me obsessed with multiple births since childhood.
At the time, my future goals were to either become best friends with twin girls or have children of my own. None of these wishes came true, but another did. I married twins.
At first, things seemed to be going well, despite my apprehensions
I vividly remember the first time my husband met the sister with whom he shared a womb. I was nervous in this type of terrain as I didn’t have a navigation system. What’s more, by the time she flew to LA to meet me, I had already proposed marriage to her brother Drew live on KTLA Morning News in front of 4 million television viewers. I did.. The producer of the show, with whom I worked regularly as a publicist in Los Angeles, had explained that women were allowed to change their positions on Valentine’s Day in leap years, so I filmed It is.
The first night, Drew took my sister and I to dinner at a nice Italian restaurant near Hancock Park. I found Michelle, who worked as a corporate trial lawyer in Philadelphia, to be an open, warm, and lovely person. We both continued talking, but hardly said anything, while Drew smiled. Towards the end of the night, I asked my future sister-in-law to be one of my bridesmaids at her upcoming wedding.
A year later at the reception, I approached her and asked, “Can I borrow a bouquet of flowers for the cake table? The photographer would like to take some pictures.”
“Oh, I gave it away at church after the ceremony, to anyone who would enjoy it,” she replied, turning to one of her young nephews, who came running up to her in tears. I turned away, thinking it would be better to hide myself. My heart was racing and negative thoughts were swirling in my head. Why couldn’t she enjoy the bouquet? Did our wedding have more of a mourning meaning for her? Did she think I would come between her and her brother?
It was difficult at first, but now we have an incredible bond.
I have to admit that the first year or two of our marriage was a struggle. I knew I was boring, but I still resented having to share my man “with other women.” Fortunately, over time, those feelings changed too. I was pregnant with my first child, and when my son was born, she became an amazingly attentive and loving aunt, even though her sister-in-law lived on the other side of the country. Later, when her daughter arrived, we asked her to be our godmother. Today, her sister-in-law and I share an important bond that we have built ourselves.
These are my top 5 tips when marrying twins
1. Support and encourage your twins’ private time during each visit. What you do together may change over time, but your need for privacy will remain the same.
2. Know that the twins refer to “our” birthday, not “my” birthday, and that they very much prefer to be together on that day.
3. Nip in the bud the tendency for your spouse to call your twin for relationship advice. Set boundaries for what spouses can and cannot share.
4. Your spouse has a twinder (or twin radar), so be prepared to meet more twins. This means that they attract and connect with people who are their twins.
5. Realize that twins share a mysterious code of silence.The good news is that your spouse can also keep your secret. And don’t worry, these graveside scoops are almost always about past childhood abuses and scrapes.
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