It’s normal to have specific things you’re looking for in your ideal partner. It can be great to be picky sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you can over-demand what you want from your partner.
The comedian known as TikTok’s “CT” recently shared a hilarious response to a very specific list of criteria men look for in their ideal partners. The original post was posted on Facebook by a 51-year-old man named Rodney Dunn.
This man sparked controversy when he created a laundry list to find the perfect partner in exchange for $100 a week in pocket money.
CT did not hesitate to ridicule his brazen request. Dunn’s first post was targeted at single women who might be interested in dating him. In it he expressed his desire for a “submissive woman” who would take care of his every need. He specified that she had to have her education and that she must be “fat.”
In addition to these requirements, the prospective partner must also have cooking skills, as he will be required to prepare three meals for Dan each day. Notably, there were also restrictions on appearance. “BBW” women are not allowed, knitting is prohibited, and false eyelashes and makeup are also prohibited.
But what seemed the most ridiculous was offering a whopping $100 a week in pocket money.
What is the response to CT? Priceless. “A $100 a week allowance? What? And you can cook for him three meals a day? Come on! You don’t get that kind of deal out there,” he said. He concluded the video by wishing those interested in pursuing a relationship with Dan good luck.
Many of Dan’s requests are superficial and outrageously rude. Most surprising of all is that he posted a dating ad on Facebook. It is clear that he does not have high standards, but rather unrealistic and shallow standards.
Is it okay to set high standards for potential partners?
Well, as long as it’s not superficial, setting standards can be a good and necessary way to ensure you only choose healthy relationships.
Dating coach Marie Christie gave YourTango some examples of the minimum standards you should expect in a relationship.
First of all, a partner who takes the initiative and makes an effort is essential for a good relationship. And, of course, it is essential to carry out the plans they have made to the end.
Is this also important? We’re looking for a partner who is “kind, thoughtful, caring, and generous.” She said her partner shouldn’t pretend to be a nice person because of appearances, adding: “He invests his time in people not because he expects to get something in return, but because he cares and genuinely cares.” Because that’s what I want to do,” he explained.
Don’t forget “emotional intelligence” in the list of criteria for an ideal partner. “They have reached or are working toward an ‘adult’ stage of emotional intelligence,” Christie said.
It is always important to have standards because standards play an important role and influence relationships. Christie sums it up perfectly. “No one is perfect. Successful dating requires being aware of yourself and the people you attract and want to have a relationship with.”
Ethan Cotler is a writer based in Boston and a frequent contributor to YourTango. His writing covers entertainment, news, and human relations articles.