When you’re in the first exciting stages of dating, relationships, and falling in love, flirting can make a big difference in how things develop between the two of you later on.
And these days, texting offers men and women alike an easy way to continue an affair and become more attached to each other, if done right.
The quality of the text messages that take place between you and a man can have a huge impact on the depth and quality of your eventual connection with him. Therefore, honing your texting skills is essential if you want to get to know a man and keep him interested.
Here are three important tips on how to send text messages that will drive a man crazy.
1. Don’t forget to be playful
The best relationships have an element of playfulness, especially in the beginning, but when it comes to daily text message exchanges, many men and women in new relationships default to standard, “How was your day?” I’ll ask you a question. and “What did you have for dinner last night?”
These texts may be thoughtful, but they’re also the kind of texts you could send to a friend or your mom. If you really like a man and want to keep him excited about you, it’s important to send him fun and witty messages.
Example: “I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this yet, but I’m a huge fan of vintage surfboards. I’m thinking of buying a new one, but I need someone to help me decide which one to buy. think.”
A playful text like this should be quirky and different. First, consider some interesting facts about yourself that will make you want to know more about whether he is the right guy for you. Revealing your personal traits and hobbies is a great conversation starter as it breaks the ice, puts a smile on his face, and allows him to start getting to know you more.
Why men like it: This approach serves two purposes. First, men love it because it relieves them of the pressure of having to create a conversation from scratch. Secondly, men like it when women are sassy and unique. Because it opens the door for serious flirting in the future. It’s the personal touch that turns an initially awkward first text exchange into a really fun one.
Recommendation: Customize the text to match your style. Tell him fun facts about you that make you a great person. It’s your unique qualities that impress you, such as your hobbies, style, and sense of humor.
Don’t: Exaggerate too much or try to appear like someone you’re not. If you do that, you’ll only end up hurting yourself. Honestly, there’s nothing cooler than being yourself. If he’s not interested in you, it’s his loss. Better know now.
2. Show him you’re thinking about him (but don’t overdo it)
Everyone wants to be wanted. There’s no harm in expressing your feelings for a man in moderation in a way that lets him know you’re definitely interested. Showing your vulnerability is a big step in building trust, and he is one of the quickest ways to build an emotional connection. When you let your guard down with a man, he’s more likely to do the same.
Example: “I was wondering about you today. It was really nice.”
Showing weakness is not showing weakness. This is the ultimate display of strength. A man worth your time and affection will give you the simple, straightforward honesty of raw text, “FYI, you’re a positive influence in my life,” in whatever way you feel most comfortable with. You will appreciate it. At the end of the day, we’re all human and we all want attention and affection. So take a deep breath and let him know that he has both…for now.
Why men like you: They say that being too strong scares men away, and that may be true to some extent. But there’s no shame in admitting that someone made your day better. This is the kind of text that men save on their phones. He will feel special and by showing him that you add value to his life, he will also see how you add value to his life. It will remind you.
D: That’s true. No one likes to be led on, so you should only add this kind of emotion to your text if you’re really feeling it.
Don’t: Don’t go too hard or too fast. It goes without saying that emotional texts should be saved once you get to know the person a little bit. By holding back, you will be less afraid to open up to each other.
3. Send him emojis, GIFs, and photos
Adding emojis, GIFs, and photos to the mix can add lots of interesting layers of meaning to your text.
When you come across a topic you’ve been talking about, or discover a new restaurant you both want to try based on your mutual love of Italian food, take a photo to let him know you’re interested. Let’s show it.
Example: The weekend is almost here and you’re excited? Express it with your favorite “Happy Friday” GIF.
Why men love it: Nothing makes him happier than knowing that he puts a smile on your face. By sending him a happy face emoji or a cute GIF of him, you’ll have proof that he made it happen.
Do: Reply with a cute emoji. What if he sent you a sweet message saying he’s thinking of you too? Hit him with the heart eyes emoji in return!
Don’t: Take yourself too seriously. Above all, keep things light and playful. Then he’ll text you back like it’s no one else’s business.
Iona Yeung is a dating and relationship coach who works with single women to identify dating obstacles, attract good men, and communicate from a space of love and clarity.