In a way, I get it. I know local businesses need money, but I also don’t like tourists in my city. I don’t enjoy spending vacations among people who dislike me at first sight. I know people who claim that they are not really tourists but “tourists” or some kind of stupidity, but they are not deceiving anyone. And don’t tell me to try to pretend I’m native. The moment I open my mouth they will know I am not. Maybe even earlier. Besides, I’m proud to be an American.
Whenever I travel in the United States, I often strike up a conversation with a stranger on a plane, on a bus, or while waiting in line at a store, museum, etc. Some of these conversations were interesting and I made some friends that way. Is it possible to have such a conversation with a foreigner? Or do they automatically think I’m a nuisance?
well they had So is your hometown. So were the host countries of the 19th-century Grand Tours. For every traveler who goes there to soak up the culture, there must be two travelers who go there to commit bad deeds so that they don’t find out. Or someone who has achieved both.
Among his more interesting feats, the ardent foreigner Lord Byron carved his name into the Greek temple at Sounion. The difference is that at that time vandalism and other outrageous acts were witnessed only by direct eyewitnesses. They are now being photographed and posted all over the world. In fact, postings are often made by vandals themselves.
Manners doesn’t need to tell you not to deface monuments, don’t wear bathing suits downtown, and don’t shout at people who don’t understand English. Also, don’t make unfavorable comparisons between that country and yours. And you obviously know to choose non-threatening locations and non-aggressive conversation starters.
So she adds only geographic notes. Look for less crowded places. People who are fanned by tourists get annoyed, even if they themselves are tourists. In other words, avoid putting yourself in front of a famous monument to take a selfie.
Dear Manners: I visited the Hillwood Estate in Washington. Both the garden and the house were beautifully decorated. The breakfast room and dining room tables displayed collections of fine china, crystal, and tableware. One thing that puzzled me was that the cutlery was facing down towards the table. I couldn’t find an answer why the dishes were facing the table instead of the chandelier.
european tableware is designed so that the decorative engraving is visible on the reverse side when placed in a place setting or used with the fork tines down, as Europeans often do. For some reason, I can’t get my manners teacher to teach me.
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