A girlfriend has been left “distraught and jealous” after discovering her boyfriend of three years slept with a terminally ill female friend as a “last wish”.
The 22-year-old woman claims that a mutual friend told her about her partner’s infidelity during a group trip and that she has been suffering mentally ever since, especially since the friend passed away in March 2022.
The woman detailed the situation on Reddit, asking for relationship advice and saying she was depressed after her boyfriend’s friend’s death.
“I hate myself because I get mad inside every time he mentions her. She’s dead anyway so I can’t express my jealousy,” she wrote.
“This jealousy is eating away at me. Because of her condition, they had sex that was totally emotional. I don’t even know who started it. I didn’t want to die a virgin, it’s like… I guess it was.”
Hundreds of people offered their advice, with most agreeing there was “no excuse” for their partner cheating.
A 22-year-old young woman found out that her boyfriend had been cheating on her with a terminally ill friend. She has since become jealous and she is thinking of breaking up with him. Her friend passed away last year (stock image)
“My boyfriend didn’t tell me he had sex with his dying friend. We were together when it happened. He’s still depressed about her death. Jealous. I feel it and I don’t know what to do,” she began.
“I’m sure he was never attracted to her. They had no further relationship. But she had a secret crush on him. She was part of their friend group. The incident occurred at the end of November or December 2021.
“At the time, my boyfriend and I had never even had sex. To be clear, he didn’t lose his virginity to her, but she lost her virginity to him. ”
She described their relationship as “otherwise perfect” and that he had always been a “good boyfriend” even at his lowest points.
“We were also best friends before we got together. I think it’s unfair to be black and white about this,” she added.
After reading comments from other Redditors, the girlfriend confronted her boyfriend about his infidelity and shared a detailed update.
She said her boyfriend didn’t say anything because he didn’t want to break up with her, but now he “doesn’t approve” of his actions.
“He didn’t want to hurt me (but he didn’t say anything until now, so he did it anyway). The guilt is part of what’s causing his mental state to deteriorate,” she said. .
“My boyfriend said that if he could have, he would have asked my permission then. He respects my decision and would not have done that. But in his mind… Some people may feel guilty for not being able to fulfill a friend’s wishes when they die.
The boyfriend also admitted that he only slept with his friend because she was “almost dying” and claims that she was the one who made the first move.
‘He wouldn’t have done that in any other situation. “It wasn’t romantic for him,” she continued.
“It was a momentary thing because there were strong emotions. He couldn’t ask me for permission because it happened in that exact moment.”
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“My boyfriend didn’t tell me he had sex with his dying friend. We were together when it happened. He’s still depressed about her death. Jealous. I feel, I don’t know what to do,” she began (stock image)
“I think it’s so awful, especially that sleeping with him was one of the dying girl’s dreams. Maybe she was going to leave us anyway and didn’t care anymore.” I’m still conflicted,” the girlfriend wrote.
After hearing his side of the story, she still wonders if she should end the relationship.
Hundreds of people took comments sharing their opinions on the matter, most of them criticizing the boyfriend.
“Hey, what? I’d do a lot for a dying friend’s last wishes, but to disrespect my relationship or cheat on them to give them one last thrill… That’s out of the question,” one person wrote.
“A friend who asks someone this as a last wish is a friend of ***,” said another.
“Yeah, he would have respected your wishes if he could have asked you…so he didn’t, right?” a third added.
Another said: “I don’t think he’s as innocent as you are trying to brainwash yourself into thinking.” Like most scammers, he had an opportunity, seized it, and regretted it. ”
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