Dear Abby
Lifestyle
A woman is worried that her boyfriend is cheating on her.
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dear abby: My boyfriend “Rick” and I broke up 10 years ago and reunited 2 years ago. I am healthy, own my own home, and am financially independent. Rick is 9 years older. He owns his own home and is retired. We have been meeting weekly for the past two years. He spent hours painting and repairing my house. I cook for him, give him massages, and we have a great sex life.
So what’s the problem? Rick is emotionally involved with another woman. He claims they had no sexual relationship at all. Should I tell her about my relationship with him? I know her name, her address, and her phone number. Rick refused to tell her about me, saying it would upset her “girlfriend.” I think she should know. what do you think i should do? I love him dearly and don’t want to lose him. — Are you going to play in New Jersey?
Are you being played with?: Listen to your intuition. The first thing you should do (if you haven’t already) is ask Rick why she is “upset” that the woman knows about you. (Does she think his relationship with her is exclusive?) Second, tell him you want him to introduce you two. If he refuses, he should call her. You deserve to know exactly what’s going on, but they’re probably far more involved than he’s admitting.
dear abby: My friend “Chris” and I decided to go on a trip together over the weekend. Tickets had to be purchased before they sold out. I told Chris I would put the money on my credit card and Chris agreed to pay me back. Our original plan was to stay with some group, but at the last moment Chris admitted that he was upset that we weren’t going alone.
I canceled plans with other groups because I didn’t want to upset Chris. Chris offered to pay for his food. I thought it was great and was able to replace some of the money that was owed to me. But when we got to the register, Chris backed away for me to pay. As soon as we arrived at the hotel, Chris and Chris’ partner got into an argument on the phone and spent most of the trip arguing over text.
The night before we left, Chris and I got into an argument. I lost Chris in the crowd and when I got back to the hotel they had packed up and left. We sat and talked and agreed that tensions were building, but Chris still wanted the trip to end quickly.
The trip was 3 months ago. Since then, I have texted Chris numerous times asking for repayment, but have received no response. I thought maybe Chris was mad at me, but they still send me our traditional daily memes. Abby, they offered to refund us several times before the trip, but they never responded. At this point, I don’t know what to do. — Traveling in Indiana
Dear Travel: At this point, you need to write off the money you owe Chris. It’s obvious by now that your friend is a cheater and has other problems as well.
Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Dear Abby, contact: http://www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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