One woman has expressed deep regret about her failed marriage and now believes she could have done better.
Initially, she divorced her husband because she believed she was a “great prey” who could do better than him. Ten years later, while her ex-husband is living her best life, she feels miserable and alone.
The woman revealed that she regretted not doing more to protect her marriage now that her ex-husband is happily remarried.
her story Subreddit, r/TrueOffMyChest, a 41-year-old woman revealed she split from her husband shortly after the birth of her first child 10 years ago. The woman said the couple’s relationship changed after becoming a parent, but there were no “major problems” in her marriage to her husband.
“I was a SAHM[stay-at-home mom]so I expected him to do more housework and childcare when he was working full-time,” the woman admitted. “He helped me when I asked, but I started asking him more and he burned out.”
The woman claimed that it was easy for her husband to “wrap her finger around her” and make him do what she says. However, he soon became “tired” of her demands and she began threatening her with divorce.
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“He said he knew the baby was just stressing us out and wanted to make it work,” the woman wrote. “But when I turned 30, I was still very beautiful for my age, so I thought I was a great prey. And having lost my mother’s body, I thought I could do better than him.” , broke up with him.”
After the divorce, the woman revealed that she won joint custody of her home and son.
Ten years later, the woman’s ex-husband happily remarries a “beautiful” young woman, has a daughter, and a new home. Since then, the woman has remained unmarried.
She can’t help but feel anger and regret for how her life has turned out.
“My son loves going to his father’s house and spending time with other family members, and it’s not a lie to envy him,” the woman wrote. “she [her ex-husband’s new wife] I have everything She has taken my husband, she has taken my children, she has taken the life that once belonged to me, and all I have left is the house in which we built our family…and now I I live in an empty house. ”
The woman added that she had gained 20 pounds since the divorce, had more wrinkles and was “lonely” and “miserable.”
She has had several short-term relationships, but claims she is no longer happy. She hopes she can go back in time and stop being “childish” and move on with her marriage.
“Right now I live a very miserable life. I now have a useless job and I have to share custody of my son, who lives with his new and improved wife at his ex-husband’s house.” I have to spend time in,” the woman wrote. “She feels like a trash can standing next to her.”
The woman said she was constantly comparing herself to her ex-husband’s new wife, so her therapist recommended she “transform” herself to feel better about herself and less regret and grief. . However, she insists that women look “middle-aged” no matter what they do.
“This is probably the most honest thing I’ve ever been. I feel really dumb. If I had been a better wife over a decade ago, I wouldn’t be in this position.” she confessed. She added that being single “isn’t her ideal life” and that she doesn’t want her worst enemy.
However, not many people were sympathetic to this woman.
Many believed she was to blame for the divorce and her lack of effort to make the marriage work.
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“You got what you deserved, he got what you deserved, and in the end it all seemed to work,” one editor commented.
“You acted like a brat and got divorced when you didn’t get your way. These are the results of those actions,” another user wrote. “You have to deal with the situation, stop blaming others and move on.”
Others noted that the woman’s ex-husband’s new wife “didn’t take” anything from her.
“She didn’t take it, you gave it,” one user noted. “The lawn next door is always green because it’s usually b——t and fertilized.”
While this woman’s divorce story ended with bitterness and guilt, it’s important to note that not all divorcees end up like this.
“Meghan Markle is divorced and was 36 when she married Prince Harry. King Charles married Lady Camilla, 57, after the death of Princess Diana. Jeff Bezos is 50 with three children.” I’m engaged to a teenage girl,” one user commented. “The real world doesn’t work the way it’s portrayed.” [original poster’s] post. ”
According to research obtained from family law attorneys, 80% of divorced people eventually remarry. Of those, 6 her percent are married to her former spouse.
No marriage is perfect and there will be days when couples argue endlessly. However, divorce is not always the solution for some people.
Some couples may seek professional counseling for help, work through hardships, and do everything in their power to help each other succeed.
Megan Quinn is a writer for YourTango, covering entertainment and news, yourself, love and relationships.