The way we do one thing is the same way we do most things.
And what I’m going to talk about is something you can do all day, every day of your life. Start today and by the end of this year, your life (and your dating life) will look completely different.
Here’s a secret weapon that will ensure your second date is a success every time.
Dear Humanity, this is a conversation about kindness.
Singles in the dating world are looking for love and want a beautiful relationship. happens like magic And sweep them away into all the romantic sunsets of the future.
But something strange happens here – Most people think of themselves as nice, kind, and overall good people.. We all think we have a good sense of humor, are good drivers, and look younger than we are. But did you know? We see a lot of bad driving, bad moods, mean behavior, and people who look their age.
My point?
If we look honestly at ourselves, we all It’s a little delusional.
It’s a protective device.
Perhaps you think you’re showing kindness in your single dating life. am I right? However, you are still single. Maybe you need to take your kindness up a notch. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Start now and practice kindness on a new level.
side Benefits of practicing kindness Are you feeling much better about yourself and feeling a little more confident? This is the number one quality that both men and women find attractive. So do this for others and for yourself!
Here’s how to practice kindness every day and see what happens in your dating life.
1. Always return emails, texts, and phone calls, even if they say “No, thank you.”
Find a kind and thoughtful way to say, “I’m sorry, I don’t think we’re right for each other, but I hope your journey goes well.”
2. Make your presence a gift.
Whether you’re on a date, on the phone, at work, or in your personal life, give your best. Giving people your undivided attention is an act of generosity. Practice being present. That means putting away or turning off your phone to be with the person you’re with.
3. I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude
Appreciate the importance of the time and energy this person has spent on you and show it.
Whether it’s a simple email, a phone call or text, a first date, or a series of dates, this person will give you their time and attention. Say “thank you” sincerely.
4. Practice generosity.
Invest your time, energy, and resources in the dating process proactively, really proactively. Dates don’t have to be expensive. Get creative with your dates outside of the restaurant confines and don’t get hung up on who pays for what. give. Just give without attachment or expectations.
5. Stop road rage.
The person behind the wheel says it all. The guy who cut you off on the highway? Is that the woman who pulled into the parking lot where you were waiting? Their dating profiles include They are They say they are “nice people”. Their actions show otherwise. Don’t be that person!
Practice kindness in your daily life. Every email you send, every phone call you receive and make, every person you meet on your day’s journey – these are the exercises you need to be kind and considerate in order to attract the best people in your life. It’s an opportunity to do that.
Don’t do this to get anything. You do it just to become something, to become a slightly better person than you were the day before.
If you’re on the kindness spectrum, take it up a notch and focus on the positive impact it has on your love life and human experience.
julie fuhrman I am a personal matchmaker, consultant, dating coach, media personality, professional speaker, dating industry conference and event producer, and blogger. She has appeared as a guest on countless television shows, including Good Morning, The Today Show, Doctor Phil, and Fox News.