we recently Asked Members of Generation Z and Millennials buzzfeed community to share some of the dating “rules” and customs that they consider outdated.
Here are 15 of them:
1.“Not living together before marriage is very outdated and counterproductive. I think knowing whether you can live happily with someone before you commit to marriage is a big part of having a successful relationship.”
2.“I make mixtapes and burn CDs for people I like.”
-Anonymous
3.“To some degree, it’s actually breaking up with someone. Of course, not everyone is guilty of this, but I can say with considerable confidence that ghosting is far more prevalent in my year. My older relatives were shocked when I first told them that someone had ghosted me.”We’ve gone out together a few times. ”
-Anonymous
Four.“People avoid actually talking on the phone during the ‘talking’ stage, and I hate that. One of the reasons I actually gave my current husband a chance was because he didn’t have any money. “I actually suggested we talk on the phone rather than spend a lot of time.” “We had a few days or weeks of awkward texting. I always feel like men who only text are usually hiding something.” But more often than not, I was right. You can’t have a perfect relationship through a screen.”
Five.“Chasing someone in hopes that they will give in and change their mind. (This still happens, but people glorify it less and know it’s not cool.) I’m an adult now. I’m serious about saying no. This is different.” It’s a romantic comedy, but I’m not going to buy into it. ”
-Anonymous
6.“Monogamy. The first thing I noticed after six years of marriage was that my husband and I became more open and honest about our relationships with people outside of our marriage.” I’m not going to do anything to anyone because I don’t want to.” It was a really good experience. ”
-Anonymous
7.“Double texting is now very common.”
8.“Giving out your address to someone you barely know? I can’t imagine having someone pick you up at your house on your first date or drop you off after the date!”
-Anonymous
9.“I’m 35 years old, and for me, we don’t discuss ‘serious’ topics before or on a first date. Maybe it’s more an age thing than a generational thing, but I’m 20. When I was in my teens, I avoided talking about deal-breakers,” I said right away (like the fact that I didn’t want kids) so as not to scare away men because I wasn’t “casual” enough. Before the first date, if the conversation stage is long enough. ”
-Anonymous
Ten.“I remember feeling like I had to lie about where I met my first official boyfriend, because it was so shameful and taboo to admit that I met online. Now… We can confidently say that the vast majority of new couples are meeting online or through apps. “It’s completely normalized. So, ‘abandoned’ dating behavior is not just dating online or meeting in person. I think it’s the fear and prejudice that comes with finding a connection with someone you’ve never met before.”
-Anonymous
11.“It’s a game that’s hard to come by. When women do it, I quickly lose interest in it, but luckily I don’t see it as much anymore.”
12.“3-day rule. I remember my baby boomer grandma (Chitose here) talking about this, and I remember seeing women waiting for calls in old movies. For example. …Why? As someone who has anxiety, this sounds like a nightmare. I think so.” My older brothers (who I dated) were never like that either. ”
-Anonymous
“I haven’t heard back from you even after three days. Most guys text me after a date to say they had fun. I hope they get home safely. I want to see them again.”red dog 81
13.“Men used to pay for first dates. I always paid for my own food and drinks on first dates, and so did my friends. It was about safety over gender equality. – If I go to a bar and pay my own money for a drink, from the time I order it until the drink is placed in my hand, I know I’m not putting anything in it until I trust someone. , I paid for my own food and drinks. On our third date, I allowed my husband to treat me to dinner.”
-Anonymous
14.“In reality, people go to bars and restaurants to find dates. Most dates are Tinder encounters, and ‘Netflix and Chill’ has changed everything about dating.”
-Anonymous
15.And finally, “Dating.” I used to think that I really needed to be in or looking for love, but I’ve been single for about seven years and I’m pretty satisfied for the most part. (I’m definitely a lot less stressed) than when I was actively dating (lol). Many older people think there’s something wrong with them that they don’t even try to find a partner. I think I still think so.”
-Anonymous