What’s the perfect girlfriend? Is she the girl next door with gorgeous good looks and double D’s? Well, not exactly.
What do men want from her?
Contrary to what you might think, when men are looking for a girlfriend, most guys aren’t looking for supermodels.
They’re just looking for someone who knows how to be a good girlfriend – a woman who is down-to-earth, kind and sensitive to his needs.
Here are 10 things every man should keep in mind when deciding whether the woman sitting across the table from him (or you) is a potential romantic partner on a first date.
Here are the top 10 things men look for in a girlfriend.
1. Confidence
There is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin.
If it’s a sin to quietly ask, “Does this skirt make my thighs look fat?” …Please stop asking questions. He may start asking questions of his own, needing his reassurance that you’re always beautiful.
2. Intelligence
If you act like you’re not that smart, the novelty will wear off for guys once you graduate high school. What men want in a girlfriend is a woman who can be on an equal footing with them.
So, be a smart and smart woman too! For him, it’s total excitement.
3. Lack of materialism
Yes, he wants to be your knight in shining armor. And yes, he wants to treat you like a princess, but that doesn’t entitle you to act like one.
Allow him the luxury of treating you to a romantic dinner or a surprise gift without demanding of him.
He’ll be relieved that he doesn’t have to work so hard, and surprisingly, he’ll be more motivated to rise to the occasion once he doesn’t have to sacrifice his entire paycheck to show his love for you.
4. Spontaneity
One of the most important things for a relationship to last is spontaneity. You get stuck on Friday night dinner dates and lose the spark you had when you first started dating. Don’t lose it!
Men love women who can do whatever they want (grab them by the collar of their shirt and drag them into the bedroom before work for a morning of fun?).
5. A casual approach to relationships
What is the best thing you can do for your relationship with him? Relax. Just relax.
When you come home from a long, hard day at work and see a pile of dishes in the sink, you know the urge to punch him. Instead, try leaving it overnight.
No man likes to be nagged, and all men like women who let their hair down and don’t worry about the little things.
I’m not saying you should just relax and get along with him, but relationships are stronger when you can both relax.
6. Easyness
Men like women who can laugh at their jokes but aren’t insensitive and don’t always take everything seriously.
Just as I mentioned earlier that men like women who don’t have to nag them about cooking, men also like women who joke about cooking.
Harsh remarks and witty retorts can help keep the spark from falling between the two of you. Also, isn’t laughter the best aphrodisiac?
7. Sensuality
We’ve already mentioned that your appearance isn’t everything (although it can be a good motivator for some men). Instead, it’s about having a confident vibe that draws his eyes to you when you walk into the room.
Embrace your femininity. In addition to ditching your sweatpants for a date night, give your girlfriend 10 minutes to pull out a little black dress from the back of her closet.
You shouldn’t feel pressured to strut around the bedroom in lingerie and high heels every night like a Victoria’s Secret angel, but you should feel comfortable in your body… and embrace it with sensuality. must be expressed to men.
8. Honesty
If he can’t trust you, how can he see you as a girlfriend and future spouse? Be open and honest in your relationships.
A simple lie about a flirtatious email with a guy from college can quickly spiral out of control and lead to a full-blown fight and breakup.
9. Self-sufficiency
Are you dating a motivated and passionate woman? So hot. Babysitting a stage 5 clingy child? There aren’t that many.
No man wants a girlfriend who he has to text, call, or visit every five minutes to reassure him. Give him a poker night with the boys. Let him go golfing on the weekend. Learn to give your man his space. Otherwise, he might break up with you to get it.
10. Support power
It’s a cliché, but some men want to be the caretaker…but even the strongest men want a soft place to settle down.
He wants to know that you will support him and support him in his life choices, such as changing jobs or moving to a new city. Show your support with small gestures by sending him a quick “I love you” message as he heads to work in the morning, and listen to him talk after a hard day’s work.
Be cooperative, but don’t be stuffy. The last thing you want is to remind him too much of his mother.
Alexandra Churchill is a digital editor currently working at Martha Stewart Living. Her work has been featured on numerous sites including Huffington Post, Her Campus, USA TODAY College, North Shore Magazine and Ocean Her Home Magazine.