When you meet a man who lavishes you with compliments, you’ll feel an incredible thrill and deep joy. Who doesn’t want to be worshiped and hear why someone thinks they’re great?
Sometimes you experience very long dry periods between guys, and hearing sweet compliments from a man can be one of the elixirs that soothes your heart the most. If your love tank is empty and you are alone for a long time, it becomes almost addictive – you simply soak in flattery and enjoy attention.
If a man compliments you a lot, you may wonder, “What should I say?” It’s normal if it’s difficult to respond to compliments. Because many people have different feelings about receiving compliments. Most men really appreciate receiving compliments from women, so you can also compliment him by saying “thank you.”
But when you first start dating and a guy showers you with compliment after compliment, it’s natural to doubt his true intentions.
What does it mean when a man compliments you a lot early on? And how can you tell if they’re sincere?
Taking the time to step back and think about a man’s motives is a very wise move.
1. He wants to take you to bed.
Think about it…why do men shower you with compliments? what does he want? Hmm…
As you may be starting to realize, flattery can be very seductive. Women who have not been interested in love for years are often most susceptible to attractive men who know what they want to hear.
How do they know? It’s not rocket science!
He knows you want to feel beautiful, special, and wanted. He says something so sweet that you let your guard down, let him into your world, and then into bed.
You want to believe that he is the “person” you were looking for and that he will always be there to make you happy.
But if you hear compliments coming in faster than usual, think twice. Perhaps he wants to take you to bed early. Then he may meet you again several times, or he may not.
2. He is a narcissist or a control freak.
Another possible reason for being showered with flattery early on is that you have met a man who is looking for a woman who is quick to fall in love with flattery. That’s his clue that she’s likely someone he thinks he can control.
This manipulation technique is called “love bombing.”
A man who is in love will chase you like crazy and say he wants to be with you every minute, every night and all weekend. They tend to rush into relationships and want to become exclusive right away.
You might think, “Wow, he’s really into me!” This seems too good to be true! ”
Whenever you think something along these lines, it’s a big red flag warning you that it’s actually too good to be true.
Once the relationship is established and a dominant man feels that he has charmed you, you will notice a big change in his personality as he stops doing the Mr. Nice Guy act and starts telling you what to do. .
Narcissists also tend to start with a large amount of flattery. Narcissistic men initially think you are just as good as them. But please give it some time. He will immediately see your shortcomings (real or imagined) and tell you all about them.
Then he will try to change you to fit his vision and forget everything he was crazy about you in the first place.
These toxic relationships cannot be repaired.
3. He may be very anxious.
Men who shower you with compliments from the beginning aren’t all bad people. Sometimes men are so shocked that a wonderful woman like you gives them the time of their lives that they get nervous and say exactly what they think about you.
It’s exciting to imagine that a man might have positive thoughts about you. But when he says you’re beautiful one after another about your eyes, hair, body shape, etc., he may actually be showing you his insecurities.
He may want to charm you by expressing all the positive aspects of you that have caught his attention, but for a confident woman who is aware that something is not right. This often causes great discomfort.
How can you tell if a man is genuinely complimenting you?
Men who find you very attractive will express one or two things that they like about you. He may love your hair, your clothes, or your smile.
However, a sincere man won’t start showering you with compliments from the moment you meet him. He will hold back because of his ego.
Quality men rarely reveal too much right away because they don’t have vulnerable personalities. It’s like showing his underbelly. If anything, his confidence will help him keep his excitement about you in check.
This is why once a man has your number, he waits a few days before calling you. What’s your hurry? He won’t reveal his true feelings this early until he reads your reaction.
If a man refrains from flattery, he can tell whether he was truly complimented.
Most men wouldn’t be caught dead sharing compliment after compliment. This is not the behavior of a confident, competent man. So if a guy you just met starts going on and on about why he thinks you’re the bombshell, it’s time to walk away.
Even if it’s been too long since someone paid you that kind of attention, think twice. If it sounds too good to be true, it almost always is.
High-quality men don’t show their guts even when they meet for the first time. Only controlling, needy, or manipulative men would do something like that.
If you’re looking for true love, a slow and consistent build is better.
If you’re looking for real, lasting love with the right man, look for a man who will take you out on dates and keep in touch.
He’s not the type to leave you alone just because he wants to get to know you. He’ll ask you out on a date once or twice a week at first, and he’ll call you at least once a week and text you in between. Things progress smoothly as they get to know each other and feelings begin to develop.
Quality men ask questions to get to know you better, actually make eye contact and listen to your answers. He wants to know what you like and what makes you happy. He doesn’t just talk about himself and his plans for you, he doesn’t go on and on about how great you are. Because he wants to get to know you before revealing the strength of his interests.
He takes his time in a good way.
Men who rely on flattery won’t make the time to meet you, or they’ll start off with a bang but quickly disappear.
Because they don’t show the consistency they need, they don’t show genuine, and perhaps long-term, interest.
There is no need to worry about long-lasting love. So don’t be fooled by a guy who is in a hurry to solidify the relationship with flattery.
The type of guy who showers you with compliments, comes on strong early on, gives you a lot of excitement, and then quickly fades away. If you want to avoid heartbreak, avoid men who exhibit this behavior.
Now you know what men are thinking when they shower you with compliments. They probably have intentions that don’t align with your desire for true love.
It could be fun, so if you want to date a guy like this, go ahead!
Guard your heart, don’t fall for his sweet words, keep your eyes wide open and be ready to walk away when things get tough.
Ronnie Ann Ryan is a love and dating coach for women.