There’s a saying: “If your dog starts barking at you, someone else is feeding your dog.” However, this phrase has nothing to do with dogs or romantic partners.
In more literal terms, if your partner suddenly becomes cold and curt towards you, it means they may be dating someone else.
One woman had a similar experience with her former partner and is warning others in current relationships to be wary of similar behavior.
While on a date one night, the woman noticed that her partner was acting strange and short-tempered.
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She recalled a time when she was planning a date night to go out to dinner with her ex-partner. “A week before the date, we were both really excited to go,” she said. “We were so excited picking out clothes and shopping.”
But when the big date arrived, Destiny noticed that her partner was starting to act “very curt” and “very curt” towards her. At first, she was worried that she had done something to upset the man, but she didn’t seem normal except for the man’s behavior.
“He was rushing me too, which was really weird because he usually takes longer to get ready than I do,” Destiny added.
Still, she tried not to let her partner’s sudden change in attitude ruin their date night at their favorite restaurant. But when they arrived, his behavior only worsened.
“He’s kind of huffing and puffing about parking,” Destiny said. “The waiter shows us to our table, and now he’s making huffing noises around the table.”
Destiny suggested ordering a drink first so her partner could relax. Instead, he insisted on going to the bathroom and was gone for an unusually long time. When he returned, he was complaining about the long lines.
“He then started picking fights with the two people next to us,” Destiny said, adding that while the two were clearly on a date, her partner said they were “looking at his women.” “There is,” he claimed.
“He went from zero to a hundred, started arguing with me, arguing with the table next to me, grabbing his things and running out,” Destiny claimed.
Her partner claimed he needed a cigarette at that moment and rushed outside. “Five minutes later, I saw his car take off in a residential area past a restaurant at speeds of over 60 to 70 kph,” Destiny said.
She tried calling her partner to find out where she was going, but to no avail. At that point, the waiter brought the food and drinks. “I was sitting by myself and there were two plates and two cocktails in front of me, and the couple next to me were like, ‘Honey, I’m so sorry,'” Destiny recalled.
When her partner didn’t return, she was forced to pay the bill herself, package his meals, and take an Uber home.
Destiny suspected that her partner’s actions were related to an affair.
At the time, Destiny blamed his actions on a possible “military PTSD meltdown” that left him particularly frustrated. But now she realizes that his sudden change in personality may have been the result of an affair.
“Someone else was feeding my dog,” Destiny said. “So if you’re getting ready to go out on a date or something fun and that person gets bitter with you or wants to start a fight…someone else will feed your dog. We are giving you.”
Others agreed with Destiny’s claims and shared similar experiences.
“My ex-boyfriend did this to me every time we had a date planned! For months! So I left. He was in a new relationship within a week,” says a TikTok user one person commented. “That’s why my ex always picked fights with me during the holidays,” another user wrote.
“He was picking a fight and you were going to break up with him. Then he makes some excuse for his behavior and decides you’re the bad guy for breaking up with him.”3 a second user pointed out.
Guilt often manifests as irritability, so if your partner suddenly starts to feel grumpy and irritable, it could be the result of an affair. But it could also mean something else.
A sudden change in behavior could mean you’re feeling insecure about your relationships, or you may be experiencing mental health issues or personal conflicts.
It’s best for romantic partners to be open and honest with each other about their feelings. And if someone else is really “feeding” them, they should tell them that fact and end the relationship out of respect for their current partner.
Megan Quinn is a writer for YourTango, covering entertainment and news, self, love and relationships.